Totally not mom/baby/pregnant related, but looking to hear some input:
Background: my husband and I own a lawn/landscape business. We rent out a barn to hold all our equipment & do work, from his mom. In return, we pay rent and we cut her grass on a regular basis (2+ acres). We use HER zero-turn lawn mower when we cut HER grass. If my husband & I are tag teaming it, we will use our own zero-turn as well. For the edging, weed whacking we use our equipment. We also put gas in HER mower along with oil, blade sharpening, and light maintenance. She hasn't had to do any hard maintenance on it in years. I was cutting her grass today- his sister put these 2 metal posts in the yard weeks ago and even though they're no longer needed, she hasn't taken them out. I, personally, cannot take them out without doing some hard labor. Therefore, I mow around them. Well, today I got too close and I put a hole in the tire. I told my husband and asked him how much it would cost & blah, blah, blah... he told me that his mom should pay for the $120 tire where I think since i was the one mowing and I was the one that put the flat in the tire, that we should pay for the tire.
Question: what do you guys think?
His mom is on vacation until Sunday night and I plan on finishing the mowing, tomorrow, with our mower once his workers get done with the route.
He says his mom will understand, but I'm honestly upset that he is going to make me tell her that we need money to fix the tire instead of just doing it ourself.
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@xryztalroze very well. We paid for the tire & that was it. 🤷♀️
@nschlegel Hey! So I was looking back through my comments and am curious to know how things went with the mil and what the outcome was? Hope all is well!
@nschlegel I think that is a perfect idea. Just what I would do. Better to pay for it and then if she offers wonderful! If not, NO harm done. Hope it all goes well.
@jenx @xryztalroze I plan on discussing with husband later that I think we should pay for it now then when she gets back, tell her what happened. If she offers to pay us back, awesome. If not, I COMPLETELY understand.
@nschlegel I hope you have a good discussion and can come to an agreement on this that is in the best interest of the whole family. 🙂
@xryztalroze thank you :)
I'm going to talk to him more when he gets home. I really do want to understand why he thinks it is his mom's responsibility.
He said if he was the one that borrowed it for business use, then he would feel the need to pay for it. So, I'm unsure if they have any other underlying agreements, but I feel like the right thing to do is we pay for it. Regardless of where/how it happened.
I didn't read all the comments, but I would pay for it myself, mention it to her, and if she truly is "ok" with it, she will give you the money. I wouldn't start a fuss over it, peace is worth $120. Just my two cents. :) If it was my daughter and she told me about it, I would give her the money back right away.
@nschlegel Hey OP, this is what I would do. First of all, if you want a happy marriage both of you have to be in agreement over what happens or at least have an understanding of why one way is the better answer than the other. Speak to your husband and explain to him that alothiut your mom may be fine with paying for the repair it is on your heart that you should lay for it and not her. Explain that you don't feel right leaving it to her and since all three of you seem to have a good things going with working together, get it fixed before wshe comes home and then talk to her to wlt her know what happened. If she just says thank you then accept you paid for the tire. If she offers to pay you back accept the kindness with graitude and a humble thank you. Keeping the peace is important especially when a family arrangement/ business is invved. Reverse the roles and do what you would hope for ifshe were in your shoes and had the decision to make. Sometimes it's not about who is at fault for what, but what the right thing to do is. Beat wishes!
@deadlylove his sister put the posts there. She won't help pay for anything.
Another reason why I believe his mom shouldn't pay for the tire. His sister put the posts in the ground over a month ago & they haven't been used (for what they were intended for) in over 3 weeks. I know damn well she ain't going to pay half of anything. But... I am going to have my husband take those damn posts out! Lol
Hmm in my opinion both parties are at fault. For the metal posts in the lawn and for you hitting it knowing it was there. It wouldn’t be totally wrong to just have you and her both pay half for the tire.
@cams exactly! I tried explaining it to my husband and he just kept saying, "she will understand..." okay? But I'm not understanding why we would make her pay for it.
They should have removed the metal but it’s your fault that the tire now has a hole. I think it would be pretty rude to expect her to pay for your mistake.
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