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Am I being too selfish? Keep in mind that I have PTSD due to my previous pregnancy.

Am I being too selfish?

Keep in mind that I have PTSD due to my previous pregnancy.

I found out yesterday (by mistake) that my husband, who I adored, is planning a surprise baby shower. This is after us talking about not doing anything at all. My logic behind not wanting a shower is that I truly feel it would trigger my PTSD. We had a shower for our 1st. Big gender reveal surrounded by friends and family who showered us with pretty much everything we asked for. I'm not sure if this time around a celebration would be enjoyable for me... if anything I'm already anticipating anxiety. I feel we already have everything that we need for baby, as we are using all the things we kept from our 1st daughter, who end up passing at 38 weeks. As this pregnancy continues and we get closer to that time frame I just want to be as calm and focus towards this pregnancy as I can be, Instead of entertaining people. He has friends from out of state flying for this shower and everything. He also excluded my family because he knows that my family can be difficult, but didn't occur to him the drama this would bring. 😑 He keeps denying planning something but I was being nosey and ended up reading some texts confirming the whole thing. He is definitely being a sweetheart and I appreciate what he's doing but I'm not in the mental state nor prepare for a surprise like this one. I can feel the anxiety attack creeping up.

I think he feels it’s would probably be good for you to be around friends and family , I think you should try to accept it and understand he’s doing it out of love for you, just relax and try to remain calm and think happy positive thoughts that’s all you want to bring to this pregnancy don’t dwell on the past what has happened I know it’s hard , but he’s definitely trying as well ... ❤️❤️

@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your…

@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer. My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk outside without this information. Children of color are being targeted and killed too. It’s not just adults. I let my son know we treat everyone equally and with respect. I let him know that we love everyone for their differences. In every aspect. Color, race, ethnicity, religion, sexual preference we love everyone.

The Lord gives and he takes away...who are we to play God. I stand with my state!❤

Keep the baby or Abortion.......

Keep the baby or Abortion....... I'm 5 weeks pregnant which was not planned, told my family and there over the moon. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years, we said we would be together no matter what. We both live with our parents and I'm in full-time work and he isn't. I've always wanted to be a mum it's one of my dreams, but my boyfriend thinks we should have an abortion because he thinks we are not ready, he doesn't have a full-time job and we are not living together. I don't believe in abortions and he said he would stay with me if I decide to keep it. But I scared he might leave. Should I keep the baby that I've always wanted and might not ever have one or have in abortion, know I have to live with the pain for the rest of my life and what till we are both ready? Please HELP :-(

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday…

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?

So I’m not a fan of my fiancé’s family. I want you all opinion on what you would do. His family wants to throw me a baby…

So I’m not a fan of my fiancé’s family. I want you all opinion on what you would do. His family wants to throw me a baby shower. Yet they haven’t invited any of my family and friends and none of my fiancé’s friends. My fiancé and his niece haven’t spoke since May since I got into an argument with her and supposedly this baby shower is her idea. Would you go to a baby shower that no one you know or friends and family won’t be apart of? Would you just not show up? My fiancé has already voiced his concerns and they were ignored. I’m thinking about not even going.