Please don’t judge me.. I need help... my boyfriend use to abuse me when I was pregnant and even put me in the hospital one time where I need to get a CT scan on my head.. yes I was stupid for staying with him but I wanted to believe things would change after that he never put his hands on me again. My daughter is now 4 months old. Last night he put his hands on me and this is the last time I will not have my daughter in this type of environment I love her way to much to stay. As much as I want to leave right now while he’s at work and never look back I can’t. Would that be considered kid nap? I need a plan .. how do I go about getting a restraining order? And does the restraining order protect my daughter. And what about custody who do I talk to about filing for full custody over my daughter ...
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Does anyone on here actually know this poor girl? Is there ANY way to get in touch with her besides this damn app?? Can mods help or get involved to get in touch with someone they believe may be in danger? Well shit... I guess that won't work either cause all we give them is our email addresses right? They wouldn't really have any more info to go off then we do. I'm just spitballing here. SURELY, somebody somewhere knows how to get in contact with her. Anyone???
I have too checked back n forth as well. This time all we could do is 🙏 and hope she's well. @leonardsquared her post made me want to tell her girl I'll pick you up beat him up myself and take you to your family. It was really a tough situation she posts. Made me feel so bad for her.
@linacorral1562, YES girl, I've checked back on this post like 56789976432 times, HOPING that mama will check in and we can know she's safe. These kinds situations, thanks to my childhood-and subsequent bad choices in men as an adult, are the kinds of things that keep me up at night. Even though I don't know her, I know this situation...VERY well and I have not been able to stop thinking about her! I keep saying maybe she got out but just grabbed a few things for her and baby and didn't grab her phone since she was in a hurry or maybe she's just so busy figuring out what her next move needs to be that she doesn't have time for this stupid app....ANYTHING but the reality of where she really COULD be, or what's really happening to her! I've been thinking of her since I read this post.
Man I hope she's ok. This gives me a VERY uneasy feeling y'all.
Just leave to be safe. How much more could you possibly endure? My bff filed a police report took it to court and gained full custody and restraining order for her and her kid against her baby daddy. All here in Ca. But whether kidnapping or whatever which i highly doubt it is I would've just left took my kid and he can screw himself. Anywhere away from him is safety. Turn to your family and good friends. Good luck!🙏🙏🙏🙏
I have been there when you do decide to leave leave and never look back you are too beautiful for him hes going to continue to put you down if he didnt change he will never change love your child more
I hope you left! These ladies gave you great information. You can do this!
If he signed the birth certificate he would have legal rights, but needless to say leaving in abusive situation will not be considered kidnapping. You as the mother can absolutely leave . And do it now! because understand if he did sign the birth certificate and he takes her; it also would not be considered kidnapping.... So yes, leave now. He can take you to family to court to figure out visitation rights later etc.
You need to file a report now so it will be on record and leave right now @domao874
Girl I say RUN && NEVER look back!! Move to another state; Change your identity. I know it’s hard && easier said then done but u gotta push through for u && your daughters safety!
Here in CA, it doesn't matter.
You can take her and leave. & So can he.
The police won't do anything if there is no actual court order in place.
I went through a very similar situation with my oldest.
& I agree with previous ppl, leave while he is gone, cause he may try and stop you and it could get even worse.
Then definitely file a police report, get a emergency protection order in place, then get everything going for your restraining order, include your daughter on these things.
If you have physical marks or bruises, take pictures of them, it will help you in court. Cause honestly CA tends to not favor mother's.. they will try to give him some custody or visitation. But if you have all the proof, you can probably make it so he has supervised visitation or visitation in a center for now. They will also most likely make him complete and anger management class before signing off on allowing visitation to begin.
Yes, leave now. Get safe first. You don't want to go sniffing around for a restraining order if you're anywhere near him. He can't do anything about your daughter without court involvement. You aren't kidnapping your DAUGHTER, just fleeing from an abusive situation.
You will eventually need to go to family court to sort it all out. Best of luck . Also, once you're safe please call your local womens crisis or domestic abuse organization as they can help you with resources for this situation.
I’ve been there. Im so so sorry!! You have to file a police report first. It needs to be documented or they have no proof & it won’t stand in court. When you file, ask the clerk. They will point you in the right direction as to what to do next. Which is a temporary protection order. You can meet with the courts facilitator, it’s cheap & very helpful. I represented myself in all my custody hearings with her help, I did it. In Wa, you have the right to take your child. I’m not sure about Ca, but I assume it’s the same.. especially in that situation. I’ll be praying for you & her. Please just leave now!
I’m sorry this is happening to you. I never been in the situation but I have had friends in similar. I am from Ny so maybe the procedure is different but I assume you would go to the police station and file for a restraining order. From reading it seems the cops were never involved so you just have to let them know you were fearful and now that baby girl is here and it happened again you are even more fearful. You may need to make a report on the incident of abuse before an restraining order can be filed. They should be able to help you from there. As far as custody goes that is a
Family court issue.
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