So my MIL wants to come stay with us after I have the baby to "help out". I told her no because she spent the weekend with us and literally could not follow any of the requests I made. I told her where on MY property she could go to smoke and gave her an ashtray to put her finished cigarettes in and asked her to wash her hands when she came back in. She did none of that. So I told her she is not coming back here again until she's ready to follow my rules. Sorry, you stay in my house you follow my rules. Simple.