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angelfoodcake

I think it's plain silly, immature and even inconsiderate when people say things like "I don't like…

I think it's plain silly, immature and even inconsiderate when people say things like "I don't like hospitals, or funerals, or changing diapers"... that actually serve as their excuse for non participating/attending.

I know the things I listed are not in comparison to one another, but I've heard them all before, usually from men. They are factors of life. I don't think anyone enjoys such things.

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beakymcspence

Beaky Mcspence

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You don’t enjoy everything in life but you do them because they are necessary. I totally get what your saying.

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dee2115

Dee

Call me silly, immature and even inconsiderate, but I don’t like funerals and will do my hardest to not attend them. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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beakymcspence

Beaky Mcspence

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You don’t enjoy everything in life but you do them because they are necessary. I totally get what your saying.

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angelfoodcake

angelfoodcake

@beakymcspence Right, exactly girl.

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dee2115

Dee

Call me silly, immature and even inconsiderate, but I don’t like funerals and will do my hardest to not attend them. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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caiticat

Caiticat 🌸

What's wrong with not wanting to go to a hospital? I won't go unless necessary. That place has so many germs. Also some people can't handle death and grief the way others can. I see nothing wrong with not wanting to go to a funeral.

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doimakeyourandiii

Randi Corn

My mom died in a hospital when I was six, I witnessed her pain and suffering there. I will never ever enjoy being in one. Nor will I ever like funerals.

Diapers and death though diapers smell like death, do not realistically go hand in hand

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angelfoodcake

angelfoodcake

@caiticat. Um who goes to the hospital if it's not necessary??

I also don't like funerals, either. But I will go. No one likes funerals..

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angelfoodcake

angelfoodcake

@doimakeyourandiii That's my point there not enjoyable, heart breaking actually - but sometimes it's necessary to attend even for the emotional support of others around you, thats all I'm saying. No one is like "Yaaaay another funeral I can't wait".

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angelfoodcake

angelfoodcake

@doimakeyourandiii I also mentioned that the things I've mentioned are not in comparison to one another...

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angelfoodcake

angelfoodcake

@doimakeyourandiii @caiticat. @dee2115

Often no matter how you break down a post, sometimes people read what they want to read and skip over the rest. I never said your are suppose to like anything I listed. My point is somethings are necessary or apart of life, and someone has to to do them - more so these things need to be done to support others.

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dee2115

Dee

Well I mean that’s okay that you don’t like funerals, but you’ll still go. I however am not emotionally strong enough to attend some of them.

Some people don’t like doing things, and shouldn’t have to do them without being called silly or immature.

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angelfoodcake

angelfoodcake

@dee2115 My opinion is that I feel they are necessary parts of life - I would even Weaver at the funeral part because a funeral can definitely go on with a specific party being present. And I can understand the emotional strain. So apologies if I offended anyone on that.

But some people don't go and it's just as simple as "I don't like them". Who does?

But the hospital to support a loved one - or changing a diaper, I feel are needs...

I've heard of husband's not going to the hospital when their wife is giving birth. Yep I think that's silly , immature and inconsiderate.

Those are my opinions and I feel I should be able to hold my opinion, kindly... Either way I can respect your position but I stand by mine and don't feel bad for my statement.

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itskarina

🪴📚

I totally get what you’re saying. I wish I had visited my grandmother more when she was in a nursing home but I was selfish and didn’t go that often because I hated going and seeing her that way. (She had a stroke and could no longer speak or walk) Now that I’m older I realize there are some things you just have to suck up and do in support of those you love.

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jleona

Jaz

I feel this post on so many levels.

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angelfoodcake

angelfoodcake

@rina414 I actually can relate to that with my grandma - and when it was too late we drive like bats 7 hours away only to miss her by a few minutes. She held on for us as long as she could. I regret not getting down there more and even when I was younger in my early 20's hanging out and didn't visit with her more when she was in good health.

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amberdaugherty

Amber Jacq

I don’t go to funerals anymore but if it’s a close family member and I was really close to them then I’ll go.

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angelfoodcake

angelfoodcake

@amberjacq I can dig that

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amberdaugherty

Amber Jacq

I also don’t mind going to the hospital for a sick family member as long as I have someone to watch my son because I care more about my son’s health, the only time that I’ll take my son to the hospital is if he needs to go himself or if me or my husband need to go and we don’t have time to take him to a family member who can watch him but I’ll be calling people to come get him because it’s risky for children to go to the hospital when they’re healthy and not sick themselves, my mamaw is a nurse and she refused to let me go to the hospital while I was pregnant to visit my papaw because he had kidney failure so she wouldn’t tell me what hospital they were at because I was pregnant and she said pregnant women, children, and the elderly shouldn’t be here during flu season so I didn’t get to go sadly it broke my heart I cried all night worrying about my papaw, and I don’t mind changing diapers it doesn’t bother me at all lol the smell bothers me but changing the diaper doesn’t because it makes my son happy

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mediocreleah

Leah

When my best friend’s mother died, I was invited to sit with her family at the funeral. The funeral was scheduled on my sister’s death anniversary, & I asked my fiancé at the time to please come with me for support. He wouldn’t, because he “didn’t know her mom” & “just doesn’t do funerals.”

I agree 100% with your post.

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beakymcspence

Beaky Mcspence

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Does anyone “like” funerals..I’m a nurse none of us go to the hospitals unless necessary.

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kalixta

Kalixta

What I cannot do, emotionally, are viewings especially for loved ones.. not that I haven’t attended but now that I’m older and have a choice I’ll usually sit in the very back or right outside the room where they’re being held..😪

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ohnstadk

Kimberly Ohnstad

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I think with hospitals and funerals it depends on whose it is... it is unrealistic to expect people to attend a funeral of someone they did not know or have no connection with, same if someone is in the hospital.... it's not only awkward or weird, it's kinda emotional sabotage...

Now if they knew the person and had a bond that would be different

Obviously you know babies are different with the diapers... so I'm not even commenting on that part

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