Any mamas out there have some marital/relationship troubles towards the end of your pregnancy? It seems like the closer…

Thanks ladies. He seems to be trying to warm up but its sketchy. He ate dinner in the living room with me and spoke a little. But now hes back out in the garage to fiddle with his truck. And his truck has been a lot of our problem for the last year since he got it. I'm not one of *those wives* to bicker about a man and his truck. But he has spent an outrageous amount of money on upgrading it. It's all he talks about. He even made an Instagram just for his truck and wont follow me (because I "dont post truck photos") but follows other women who have trucks (but also post photos of themselves of course..). He snaps at me over spending money on necessary baby items but then goes and blows money on his truck. He doesnt help with medical bills (we have separate accounts because I dont condone all of his spending) and has only bought maybe the ceiling fan and a storage bin thing for her nursery.

I dont want to sound like I'm speaking ill of my husband. I love him I really do. But he has a lot of growing up to do. My step dad is normally the only one who can even sorta talk to him about stuff but hes overseas for work and only gets to be home 30 days every 6mos. So he cant make much progress with him. He did have like a talk with him before we got married and stuff but he said he felt like he didn't really hear it because hes still young and cares more about his "man card" than much else. So he just has a lot of growing up to do as I said. He has to start learning how to communicate effectively along with not being so self centered. Hopefully it'll click when he finally holds his daughter. They always say that we as women are mothers when we get pregnant but for them it takes that moment for it to become real. So maybe then he'll finally see that hey you've got someone else depending on you so you have got to step up.

He needs to work on his communication issues. It’s so normal for things to get tense with a baby on the way, but he can’t completely shut you out. Give him some space for now, but table the conversation for a later time. This is something you guys definitely need to address. He can’t continue treating you this way.

Hope things get better. ❤️

@rachael.mei silent treatment is the worst hope he comes around

@expectinggreatness that's what I've been thinking too but I just wish he would talk to me about it. But instead he picks fights over every little thing. And he will belittle me and disrespect me when I try to speak up for myself or even just give an opinion that differs from his. As of now hes outside cutting grass so I'm just doing household chores. I'll eventually cook dinner and maybe just try to approach him then. We have my cousins baby shower tomorrow and we cant go in there around my family like this. So if it's going to continue then I'm going to have to tell him to stay home and then I'm going to look bad by having to make up an excuse for him not being there when its co ed and she and her husband came to our shower.

@prettyflower1033 thanks girl. His truck was parked a way that blocks me in. And he locked himself up in the bonus room again without saying a word so I didnt feel comfortable asking him to go with me or to even move his truck for me to go alone. And then now hes outside cutting grass. I just dont see an end in sight to his silent treatment and childishness. But thanks. I'm just going to try to do what I can and hope he comes around.

Sorry you’re going through this . I’d say give him his space and go hang out with friends or do something you love to help keep you positive . It sounds like maybe the reality that this time you will be bringing a baby home could be causing stress . (No excuse for him to shut you out though ) it could be fear of the unknown and worry about all the what it’s of parenting . Try to find a time to communicate with him when he is less defensive . Maybe try to cook his favorite meal , initiate sex and then try to talk after that . HUGS

@rachael.mei inbox me if you need to talk

@rachael.mei I know its the hardest to go through right now I would say try to be the biggest person just to avoid any unnecessary to you and your baby.

@prettyflower1033 well he immediately went straight back up to the bonus room and still hasn't spoken to me. He doesnt make himself approachable to even ask if he wants to go too because he just looks hateful right now. Hes just up there on his phone. I really dont think he wants anything to do with me even if I tried to offer for him to come to the store with me. Idk. I might give it a shot but I also just feel like this is on him at this point. Hes going to drag this out til he feels hes done or until I just apologize and try to blame everything on myself just to make the fight end. And I'm tired of doing that. It makes it to where he doesnt take anything I say into consideration and he just waits for me to give in. I mean we had this happen back before we got married and I don't even remember how long it lasted. It was miserable walking around on eggshells and in a silent house. Its awkward having someone walk past you and pretend you dont exist. And it's just making me increasingly hormonal because I don't understand how he can treat me this way especially while pregnant.

@rachael.mei you have done your part try to stay busy throughout the day then Hopefully his attitude will change... Or probably trying to come get him to come along maybe to buy a few more things for your daughter... And see what happens.

@prettyflower1033 no..and he is sooo bad about wanting everything to be private. He would flip out even worse if I told someone we know about what's going on and have them to talk to him. I tried texting him when he left and just try to open up communication and he kept shutting me down. Telling me my opinions are dumb basically. He doesnt want to hear my side of anything. And then eventually he just stopped responding back. My last message to him was " I wish you could just communicate". That was hours ago. He has been gone to get his truck stuff done since 930 and it's almost 1230 now. Hes just now pulling in. So I guess we will see how he acts when he comes in. But I am doing laundry so I have clothes to wear then I'm getting ready and leaving to run my own errands. He can join if hes willing to change his attitude but I'm just done dealing with this. Its causing too much stress on me and my daughter is feeling that.

@rachael.mei Do you have any mutual friend someone whom could call and talk to him on your behalf?

Well. I was hoping maybe he would try to salvage today and start fresh but nope. He left to go get his oil changed and still never said a word to me. And normally we say we love each other before we leave. This is getting ridiculous.

@veemndz I definitely expected it once the baby comes but having this happen even before that makes me worried about what it's going to be like when she gets here. This is already miserable

@prettyflower1033 thank you so much! Still no end in sight. He woke up and then got on his phone like always. And now hes showering to go take his truck for an oil change. Hasn't spoken one word to me still. I mean I at least tried speaking to him multiple times last night and it got me nowhere so I give up as far as that goes and I'll just remain in silence too until he's ready. I'm not going to have him be snippy with me again.

My SO and I usually start getting irritated with each other when baby is born 😂😭

We are tired, moody and just complete zombies. This is our 3rd baby, my 4th, so we know what's coming. I would say its normal as a 1st time parent. Hang in there guys💗

@rachael.mei I hope you guys find a way to communicate cause I wouldn't want things to get harder once the baby arrives. For now focus on getting all the things you need for your baby and try to keep yourself busy that way he could maybe approach you to finally solve the ongoing issues. Sorry you're going trough that. Stay strong. I'm here if you need to vent just inbox me.

I honestly just feel like he hates me or something. Like I tried to go up there and ask if hes staying up there tonight because if so then I was going to shut the hall light off (the dog keeps going between our bedroom and the bonus room bc he doesnt know what to do if were separated and who to be with). He got pissy with me and was like "Wtf do you mean?.I'm watching TV" I said ok but are you staying up here. He was like "what does that even mean" I said are you sleeping up here. He said no why. I said I was just wondering. Like he wouldn't look up from his phone and had a tone with me and everything. And some stuff with his phone is our current argument but that's a long story. I just wanted to know if he was staying up there or coming back to bed so I could shut off the lights or not. I didnt want it left on and him go to sleep. He wont even look at me. I'm so worried hes going to act like this all weekend. Or for the next 5 weeks. And then I'm terrified it's only going to get worse when the baby gets here because he'll be sleep deprived on top of this behavior..

@josefa thanks..I really hope so..

it does get way harder towards the end and beginning of baby being home etc hang on, it gets better

@prettyflower1033 girl ours has been rocky since we ever even got together but especially once we started trying to have a baby. I had 2 miscarriages last year. My first one I was further along than the 2nd one. The first loss was way worse. And he abandoned me during it to make a long story short. And the 2nd loss it just seemed like whatever to him. He actually got better with me getting pregnant this time around. It just seems here lately it's gotten back to crap again where hes not taking my emotional needs into consideration and he blows me off as being hormonal at times. He cant seem to ever admit if hes made a mistake or apologize. He just shuts me out until he can act like nothing happened. So childish 🙄

But yeah I totally feel like I'm going nuts. Thanks for the prayers! I'll try avoiding some arguments or taking a few breaths before reacting and really trying to analyze the situation before blowing it up

@zionandbellasmama thank you! I surely hope so too. It's hard not being able to talk to the person you're with. Especially when you're in the same house all night

@rachael.mei my relationship wasn't easy at all since I found out im pregnant in January we argue and fought about everything now that I'm getting closer to my due date I have been trying to avoid small arguments that can turn into big ones. Take it easy try to ignore the little things and try to vent to some friends rather than argue. i pray it gets better for you. Not sure If its the hormones of pregnancy and on top of carrying a baby girl thought I was going crazy at some point.

I'm sorry! It could just be stress or anxiety on both your ends. I know im a little more irritable these days, i try my best not to argue if its really not worth fighting over.

Fingers crossed it'll all pass once your baby is here😊

@angelfoodcake thanks love. Guess that's all I can do. Forcing any communication isnt gonna work if he isnt even wanting to be near me

awwww I'm sorry, just give him some space and "do you" as well, relax, watch something good on TV . And don't stress.