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Chrystal (Chrys) Herron
Chrystal (Chrys) Herron
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Hey Mamas, I’m not trying to be cryptic, but I know that there are many of us that this has applied or currently applies…

Hey Mamas,

I’m not trying to be cryptic, but I know that there are many of us that this has applied or currently applies to. This is a real life circumstance for some, and for others it is a tale of what we’ve survived. Either way, I’m here to support our tribe within my capacity.

Just know that you aren’t alone.

Because we know that abuse isn’t always physical. We don’t always have tangible scars to prove we’ve been abused. We fool ourselves into believing that if it cannot be seen then it’s not real. We brutalize ourselves into feeling ashamed and/or guilty that our abuse didn’t consist of great malice and/or harm, but rather, manipulation, lack of empathy, compassion, understanding, and a withdrawal of love and affection.

We’ve been gaslighted.

Humiliated.

Economically deprived or controlled.

Disrespected.

Isolated.

Criticized.

Unappreciated.

Undermined and undervalued.

Taken for granted.

Our boundaries have been violated.

Our self esteem has diminished.

Yet and still...

Here you are. You’re making it.

You refuse to give up.

You refuse to carry those burdens.

You’ve decided you will no longer stay quiet.

If it means working 2-3 jobs to make ends meet, you’re willing to do it.

If it means putting school on hold, you’re prepared to do it.

You know that you’re worthy of respect.

Of love.

Of healing.

Of happiness.

And so are the kids.

So Mamas, here’s to the ones that have made it, are making it, the ones that are caught up in a cycle because they fear they won’t make it, and to those who haven’t shared the experience but stand with us.

I salute us!!!

Get informed.

Know and recognize the signs.

Seek help/support.

Know your options.

Devise a plan.

Be flexible if things don’t quite pan out as you’d hoped.

Do what’s best for you and the kids.

💋Chrystal (Chrys)

Image courtesy of The National Domestic Violence Hotline

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herron.chrystal

Chrystal (Chrys) HerronМама дочки-младенца

@angelsmommy25, You are a living testament that it’s possible!

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herron.chrystal

Chrystal (Chrys) HerronМама дочки-младенца

@angelsmommy25, I agree, Mama! It’s, absolutely, one of the most difficult relationships to end. Especially when you’ve been stripped of any and everything that could potentially remind you of the innate power that you possess. Anything that reminds you of your incredible self reliance. It’s difficult, but it’s doable. It’s possible. I think the problem is that we think of everyone l but ourselves else first. How will this impact our kids? How will I manage my home independently? Can I afford to do that? Do I want to disrupt the home dynamic? Who do we have to rely on? Where will we go? Will this damage their relationship with the other parent?

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boymom30

Valerie Мама двоих (младенец)

I’ve been a victim of domestic violence in the past. N it’s hard to get out of that type of relationship

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kambam

kammyМама сына (1 год)

So true. Having a child puts so many things into perspective. I'm usually quick to blow up over some things but now I have to think about how my son will be influenced by that 🙅 I had to rise above my past real quick to be a mother.

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herron.chrystal

Chrystal (Chrys) HerronМама дочки-младенца

@kambam, Youre absolutely right! Thank you for your transparency. I too have been on opposite ends of the cycle, as both the aggressor and the victim. Bottom line is, hurt people hurt people. My home environment was one of extreme narcissism (Father) and emotional codependency (Mother). The abuse manifested differently, but it was abuse nonetheless. We don’t always realize how deeply imbedded those behaviors are. It’s conditioning. Having my daughter truly forced me to reckon with myself and decide for myself how I wanted to shift our generational patterns for the better! It was a hard pill to swallow, but I’m grateful for the accountability! We’ve got to fight for our healing sometimes.

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halloween_mami

Claudia💁🏽Мама двоих (младенец)

Love this !

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kambam

kammyМама сына (1 год)

Great inforgraphic! I've totally been in this situation and you sometimes don't even realize it until you get out . I have been the abuser and the abused. It's not always the men.

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