I told my daughter before my husband, but she didn’t understand, right after I took the test. I whispered it to her and then we went out that day and bought her a big sister shirt. When daddy came home, he had a surprise!
Our oldest 13 knew pretty early (he saw the test on my bathroom counter) we didn’t tell the rest until about second trimester. We had just had a miscarriage and didn’t want to explain that to them again.