I need some words of encouragement if you ladies care to chime in. I don't know where to start. We've been living with…
I need some words of encouragement if you ladies care to chime in. I don't know where to start. We've been living with my husbands folks for 2 years because. we've been paying off debt. Were almost done, thank God! We began looking at houses However some issues have arose with h's work and he may be getting laid off because the company was bought. So he has seemingly made an unilateral desicion to stop looking for houses (which I get) HOWEVER he want a to stay with his parents for another freaking year!!! Just to put money in the savings. Not for a downpymnt, not to save for car payment (which I'm paying, just bought btw) just to save. Baby boy will be here in sept!!!! I can't be here for another friggin year!! They don't have a Big house, we don't have a basement or anything to be able to retreat to except our bedroom. Which only a wall separates us from their room . Too long? I can keep going. lol We will have to share a tiny room with new baby. We all know what new babies are like during the night! Where am I suppose to retreat too when he starts crying in the middle of the night every night? Does he expect me to go hide in the bedroom isolated from him and my 5 yr old every hour or so to nurse the baby!?! I can keep going. But you know. I'm beyond stressed, hormonal and my anxiety level is thru the roof. My pregnant friends are posting on Facebook their nursery photos THAT doesnt help! And picking their names ect. We can't even agree on a name! Our crib is in storage. No room. Our pak n play is in storage, no room! I've tried to talk with him, were doing counseling and he just won't budge. He's too afraid to move out of their house and move on. Renting is out the question, he says "it's a waste of money and it does nothing for our finances". That's just half the iceberg. 😩😩😭😡😤.......done....for now....
Letty ·
Do what I did look for places to rent or houses to rent and get out on your own if he follows good if he doesn't then you know where you stand dont settle you deserve it all
sherry S·
Time to move out and have your own privacy.. put your foot down rent a place until your ready to buy..not a waste of money..does he realize if you buy a home things break also..pipes.roofs. things have to be updated.upgraded maintained ....Do you work also? I worked all 9 Month's of a high risk pregnancy..do what's best for your own little family
Emily Mallegni·
Мама дочки (1 год), беременна (33 нед.)
I would look for a rental. We lived with my parents for a little while with our daughter and then with my MIL for a little while... it was the worst. You guys will need privacy and your own space.
Mish·
Maybe look into a rent to own situation?
manda.lk·
We lived with my so's parents for 3 months. I dont know how you've lasted 2 years! 4 of us in one small bedroom, we couldn't wait to get out of there. I definitely would look for some place to rent to have your own space.
Cams ·
Ughhh. That’s a hard one. I’m basically naked from the waist up the first few weeks. Nursing on demand. I would hate to be confined to a tiny bedroom all day long. Do you have any family with a larger space you can stay with? Or if you work, I might consider renting on your own.
Tykekia Neely·
Мама дочки (3 года), беременна (33 нед.)
Similar situation here. Sold our house, and we found one we like and husband changed his mind at last minute. So we are living with inlaws. Love them to death but I want my own house. Everything is in storage and my due date is sept 3rd. Can’t stand this
Amy·
Мама сына (5 лет), беременна (29 нед.)
@tykekia I know it. Not to mention laboring at home for as long as possible. How comfortable will that be in someone else's house!?!?!
Amy·
Мама сына (5 лет), беременна (29 нед.)
@cams we've got no one with more space.
Amy·
Мама сына (5 лет), беременна (29 нед.)
@emily526 why can't he understand and see these Huge issues?!?!
Amy·
Мама сына (5 лет), беременна (29 нед.)
@sherrynygirl yes I work full time.
Amy·
Мама сына (5 лет), беременна (29 нед.)
@tykekia everything is in storage. Literally everything.
Amy·
Мама сына (5 лет), беременна (29 нед.)
@mrs.letty.luna I have contemplated that. Although my income is good, still not enough for car & rent and whatever else expenses may come along. We have to meet in the middle and compromise. He can't see past all the numbers and that's where the problems are. He's afraid we will end up in the same situation. Student loans/CC's. And we won't, the debt will be gone by Sept. Except my car pymnt. He doesn't want a car pymnt and a house mortgage at once either. Get over it man. Those are necessities to live. It's the sad truth that he needs to realize. It's not like my car is brand new $20k+ because it's not.
Melissa Hargiss·
Мама двоих (5 лет, 14 лет), ждёт третьего
Renting is great. You don't have to worry about taxes or buying new appliances when they go out!
Letty ·
I bought a 26k car and my hubby and I rent he wants a house and knows I want one more baby due to health issues I want it soon but I'm compromising till we get a house so I understand my ex though he didnt follow me he chose his mom
Morgan ·
Been there, done that. It doesn’t work. Y’all need to find a place of your own
Amy·
Мама сына (5 лет), беременна (29 нед.)
We've been a 1 car family of 3 for 6 years. A tiny honda civic. So we found an amazing car that will fit all of us 4 with some extra room and I love it. Now that we can afford a new car for once. I've been starting to look for rentals tonight, our options are definitely more open now that we don't have to rely on being close to a bus stop (for him) but they have to be cheaper than what a mortgage would be for him to bite the bullet and even consider renting.
Amy·
Мама сына (5 лет), беременна (29 нед.)
Ohhhh....😶😶😶I have noooo words!!! My husband got the crib out of storage while my 5 yr and I were at the pool and he started to put it together in the bedroom. That barely fits a queen size bed and dresser. . . .It's not even finished and wouldn't ya know it...There is nooo room shocking..why? Just..why??