How to Handle Anxiety Over Cleaning Demands from Fiancé's Mom?
You guys are probably gonna think I'm like ungrateful, but, I get so much anxiety when my fiance's mom tells me to clean. If it was just my mess it would be fine, but she also yells at me for everyone's stuff. I get yelled at for things I didn't even know about. And yelled at for not knowing it. Most people have to clean, and I get that, but I have PTSD regarding cleaning (long story, but to sum it up, as a child, when I wasn't in school I was cleaning. That is not an exaggeration.) Sometimes I just roll with the punches like anyone else (though I feel nauseated), but sometimes I have meltdowns, attempt to leave (again, you guys are gonna think I'm crazy) and it's this big thing, and I feel like crap after for exaggerating. IDK what to do about it. I can't tell her cuz she probably wouldn't believe me, she says it's not her problem when her son says something about it. I don't want to leave, but I'm at a loss on what to do. (Besides therapy, cuz I'm not great at keeping appointments) what do you guys think I should do?
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@destiny7685 OMG right! And she always pulls the "cause you don't have a job" thing. Like if you don't recall, I don't have a job cuz your son impregnated me. I worked until the last week of my pregnancy and would be back if she didn't refuse bottles. Can't say any of that to her face though....
My baby daddy’s mom did the exact same shit to me dude!!!! I took it and took it and just let her talk to me like a dog and finally I exploded bc I was so fed up with it and I told her I wasn’t going to clean up after her sons nasty trashy ass friends who don’t know how to wash there dishes or go to the garbage can. I told her she needed to keep her fuckin mouth shut.
This sounds like me. Just try to stay calm and talk to her. If that doesn't work, do what you can and don't stress over it. Some people will never accept your way of thinking
Talk to her. If she doesn’t believe you, go from there. But talking to her might help you figure something out, like maybe having some help with cleaning? But I do think therapy will help too.
@lexiem3, I took all I could take girl. I mean I snapped. Completely broke. It takes a lot to get me to my breaking point. Lol