@jennatess, that would be great but they say they can’t afford anything etc

@inkedsouthernbelle, I tried that and it didn’t work

Don’t clean up after them and watch the shit pile up. Someone will get tired eventually and it won’t be you. They’re expecting you to cater to them and that’s bullshit especially being 9 months pregnant. They know good and damn well what they’re doing is wrong so trying to talk about it is useless. Simply quit feeding them, cooking, cleaning after them etc. they’ll run out of clothes and food and move on to mooch off someone else eventually.

@amalfi-santiago, gotcha.

Because it’s his family, I would have him to most of the talking. Personally, I would have him them sign a lease. 6mo or 12mo. Have it notarized. Tell them you want rent every single month, ect. That will probably send them on their way. Because the way I look at it, they will be thinking they’d rather just rent their own place. Ya know?

Or, you can even have your doctor write up a note that you’re under unnecessary stress. This could lead to a discussion about a literal chore chart.

Or, as hard as it is: tell them that it’s time for you 2 and baby to be ALONE. That they have 6 weeks to find their own place. Or you could even say 3 weeks.

They really can’t say “no”. Since your boyfriend owns the house. He can always have them removed by force of police. But, I think giving them a move out date would be best in the long run.

@jennatess, my bf is the house owner

@amalfi-santiago, and do you rent or own your home?

@jennatess, it’s his sister and her husband with two kids they r trying to adopt but they r not ready for any of it they r always saying how broke they r but the husband just got a new car it’s just stressful because my baby is due in three weeks and they don’t understand that I need the house ready to the t

I hate the situation I wish I could just be my bf and I and our son but it seems like they r never leaving we also talked about moving and they planned on moving with us and I said no we r not getting a new house for them to trash

@amalfi-santiago, how many people are there? Who exactly? Mom, bothers, ect?

@jennatess, your right in every way I just want them out but how do I say that in a way were they don’t get on the defensive because that’s all they do

@amalfi-santiago, I would then use the baby as an excuse. Explain that with the baby coming any day now, that it’s time they moved on. Find a new place. It’s time for you guys to be a family and with everyone there and all the extra cleaning you have to do, it’s just too much.

I used to have this same exact problem.

My husband and I were expecting our first in July, and my mom and grandma moved from Illinois to Northern California to be near me. They always wanted to leave Illinois, but it was just a matter of the right timing. Anyway! They moved out with their FOUR dogs. I had one. They moved in April. So, my mom and grandma were looking for a home to buy, but staying with me in the time it took. April went by, then May and June... still no house. So, I gave birth in July and brought my baby home to a house with 4 adults and 5 dogs. It was insane. I wanted clean and tidy, and they were okay with laundry on the floor for days at a time. FINALLY my mom found a house in August/ September. I know we all have to help family. I get it. But, there comes a time when enough is enough. Time for them to move on, or abide by what YOU want for your household.

hell no. i am a huge cleaning freak and i hire someone to help me on my last 2 months of pregnancy so if i was u i would be like get ur asses here and help clean

Tell them to go?

@leroydoom, they leave the dishes in the sink for weeks till I do them even though I don’t dirty them

@jennatess, he feels the same way as me and he told them about it a couple of months ago and they change for a week and all goes back, it’s just getting old and I’m very ocd and like having a clean space I wish they would leave😢

Family meeting. Life is much easier when you just speak your mind. I hate confrontation, but, let them know that enough is enough. Either they need to start helping out or get out.

Sounds like they're taking advantage of you guys, what does your bf say?

Maybe try a chore chart? Or designate a part of the house that is their responsibility to keep clean. Or if you cook dinner than someone else in the house can do dishes and vice versa.