Ive been married for 5 years now. Going on 3 kid with my husband. We have issues and he will not change and its taken me…

@caffeine.fiend im so happy for you from the bottom of my heart. It gives me hope that i will come out of this in a positive way. Thank you for sharing your story. 😘

@annlovesyoo, that was my first marriage, resulting in my oldest two children. The man I am married to now is wonderful. He never once treated the kids like they weren’t his, he has been present for all milestones since becoming part of their lives. My ex hasn’t had any contact with my oldest kids in 11 years, which has been awful, but they both have decided they would rather not have a relationship with him at this point.

Life is what it is, and with God, healing is possible. We’ve had to do a lot of forgiving, but I think we got the best part of the deal. God has been good to us.

@linacorral1562 thank you. @caffeine.fiend im sorry you had such a horrible experience and your children did too. I hope that you made the right choice for your safety. I cant let my husband hit my kids yet alone abuse them. His neglect as a husband and fatherly duties are not acceptable. We give everything for him for him to give us nothing in return. I deserve better and my children as yours deserve the world.

@anacort my husband neglects us

I’m sorry you and your children are going through this. In my experience, the arguing began away from the kids and the kids saw me crying. Then things escalated and he began hitting our oldest son(still in diapers and barely speaking). He would hit him in he head for mispronounced words, spanked him til blood vessels were broken in his behind, and would call him names. Please, for the sake of the children and your own mental/physical/emotional health decide how much of this behavior is too much before it becomes dangerous for all of you. Especially if drugs are involved.

Good luck in whatever decision you make. Pray on it. Really hope things work out great for you n your kids.

Man I'm going Thur this too I'm fed up

@northernmama im sorry about your momma going through that and you seeing that. My husband and i dont argue in front of the kids. When they see the aftermath of me crying they know im upset but i never let them know why im upset. Part of me wants them to always love mom and dad and to never choose sides. I want to leave my husband because i know i deserve more. I just cant fathom the idea of my children asking why their parents aren't together.

Please just do what makes you happy. My mom and dad fought alot and now they live together and still married but they dont sleep together and seeing my mom so unhappy makes me unhappy cause she stayed with my dad for us. Honestly I wished they would get divorced. There's no love and my mom bust her asss just to keep us upfloat and have dinner on the table. Maybe that's what I always had trouble with relationships in the past. Please do what makes you happy. Because kids can notice it when its just you doing the work and having a mom that does alot for her children but is unhappy with her life. Wish you the best

My husband isnt abusive with me or the kids. He just has fucked up priorities. I have given him my last penny. Scrapped the house clean to make ends meat and put food on the table everyday. I give my all. He wants to do nothing all day but smoke weed. He wants to be out with his friends than carry a damn conversation with me. He is neglecting his family. If i was selfish and not give a fuck he would flip his shit. Ive been acting like a single mother so far.

if it's really that bad ur kids will be better in seperate homes they need a healthy mama!!!

You have to do what's best for you're kids and yourself even if it the hardest thing you have to do which is walking away.