I have decided to not have visitors besides my parents in the hospital after I give birth. My husband isn’t really close with his parents or family and they live 2 hours away so they likely wouldn’t come anyway. My sister and friends are little unhappy about them not being able to come see me until after I’m out of the hospital .. but me being new to the baby thing (I’ve never even held a baby that wasn’t old enough to hold their head up) and this being my first - I really want to have quality time with the hubby and baby before we go home. We have dogs at home too so it’ll be a nice break to focus on being new parents.
Anyone else have limited to no visitors by choice? Did you think you were making a mistake?
@shelby.wrightx3, yea that’s gonna be a no no for me just scared of germs and plus I wanna bond with baby this will be my first they all have over 3 kids lol wanna be alone for the 3 days I will be there
I decided on the same no visitors for me just me and baby til I get home and besides they was all trying to bring their kids and that is a no no for me #NoKidsAllowed
I let whoever in the room after I had my daughter. But if I were to decide to breastfeed If/when I have a second I will have no one there. It’s too much stress!!!
@shelby.wrightx3 you deserve that time alone. It can be very overwhelming with everyone's hands out reaching for the tiny baby you just brought into this world too whether its right away or hours later. I still have a hard time handing my baby over to some people lol and he's 6 months old. Just enjoy your time❤
@michaelsmommy17, that’s always what I hear which is why I feel so strongly about it remaining intimate .. so we have enough time on our own before everyone wants to see him and hold him etc.
I agree with you! I had sooo many people in the waiting room (not by choice) the staff was actually annoyed!. I had planned an hour alone with me, baby and bf right after delivering but my baby had to be taken right away due to some medical stuff so I didnt even get him until about 5 hrs later. Next time around, especially because of my first experience I will not have any visitors except grandparents until I get home!
Such a good decision!!! We have a large involved family and it’s usually great, but is just way too tiring when in the hospital!! You’re going to have so many “visitors” as it is with all the hospital staff, LC, doctors, photographer, etc. Enjoy as much quiet as you can get!!!!
@shelby.wrightx3 I waited until 25 weeks with my 1st 😂 this time around idek how to go about sharing the news this far along or if I should just show up one day and be like look new baby!
for me its a little different because people are flaky and wont come anyway lol. But i wont have anyone but my sister in law and my close friend maybe, but she will be babysitting my kids anyway. But i dont think its a big deal, tell them its better if they see the baby after anyway.
@emily526, I think that’s great!!! Then you don’t have to hear advice and all of that. 🙄 though I’m sure you did with your first
@shelby.wrightx3 I don't think your crazy. In my experience, we didn't have any babies to hold. I'm the youngest in my family at 25. We're all different and there's nothing wrong with being private about personal situations. Girl I'm 30 weeks and haven't even told anyone but my husband that I'm pregnant. If there's anyone who knows and respects privacy it's me 😂
@prettyjazz98, same here. I know the focus is on the baby but if im a mess I’m going to feel terrible and not want people in there let alone with just having a baby in general.
@emily526, that makes me feel a lot better. Everyone tells me I’m crazy because I’ve never held a newborn. I’m awkward with things like that. I feel bad even my own nephews I didn’t hold after they were born but I knew I wanted to wait until I had my own and experience that. I’m definitely a private person to anytime it comes to situations like this.
I only want my mom and my boyfriend in the room well I'm giving birth. And atleast give me an hour with the baby and my boyfriend then everyone can benbard in
Yup, I just had my parents there. My husband was away so he wasn't even there. I liked it that way. I'm a private person to begin with and like you that was my first time holding a newborn and I just wanted it to be quiet and intimate.
@katt82, I honestly didn’t even think of that. Everyone I know has kids. Even better reason to not have visitors. Yikes