When talking with my soon to be exhusband...he cheated on me...I don’t want to continue our relationship and he said he didn’t either...tonight he asked if we could possibly co parent under the same roof since I don’t have a job and he wants to help financially and help with our son because I am high risk...I don’t know if I can handle it...I do need help :( my son is a major daddies boy...I don’t want to keep him away from his dad...I am out of my mind and don’t know what to do...any advice??
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I dont think its a good idea. If you still love each other maybe he can move out for a while and get in counseling and then see. If you make yourself financially dependent on someone who broke your trust, you will have to deal with that resentment constantly.
I think you are scared. If he's really a good dad he will do whatever baby needs financially and whatever you need to heal.
It's up to you but, speaking from experience once a major betrayal
happens its soo hard to move forward.
If you have feelings for him which most likely you still do, I think it would be best if you don't stay in the same house as him. Like you said, he cheated. That's when you guys were together. Imagine what it would feel like seeing him come and go whenever he wants. Talking to whoever he wants. It's only gonna hurt you. Don't depend on him. That will only give him reason to feel like he has some power over you. He can still be a dad to your kids even while not under the same roof.
There’s no way you guys can coparent under the same roof. Now wouldn’t be so bad, but what about dating later on?
Living together an co-parenting is ruff. It's good if hes actually going to help so you can get on your feet so you can be separate.
@malbhurtado, I can not stay with family no room :(
That’s a tough one. I’m not sure that it would work out. I honestly have no advice, but maybe try? Only someone who’s actually been through something like this can give you some insight. What sucks is that both of you are done with the relationship😔 I think everyone deserves a second chance. I would hope that you two would be able to reconcile. Only time will tell. Good luck😔
I think that would be fine temporarily until you get on your feet. But you need to start making a plan to separate. I don't think it's healthy for you to be stuck depending on him. Do you have friends or family that you can stay with or have come stay with you? Are you able to work sitting at a desk or something?
@josefa, my parents are young and work full time and my siblings are both in high school still and busy with sports :( they try to help out as much as possible but only can do so much and I understand...his family is just horrible...
@paigerue2013, damn... im so sorry! would your family be able to help you?
@faithhopelove, that’s what I was thinking!
No, don't do it! It's probably just a way to control you and I'm sure there are still feelings there son jealousy will be an issue
@josefa, he talked to the girl for about 3 months met us with her three times and she is married with one kid going through a divorce...he said they only kissed and talked and that’s about it...I don’t know if I can believe that but I don’t have any trust for him and don’t think us working out will be a thing...but I know I’m going to need help...
can you reconcile? was it a mistake he made once or is he a total douche
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
Trigger. Lost baby
Went in for my 20 week check up and found out our son had passed away. Nothing was wrong, my pregnancy has been going great. I'm so numb right now. I'll he delivering him later this week. I don't want to do this. I don't want to do this. Not before Christmas. How am I'm going to tell my kids?? My dear sweet baby boy. Why did this happen?
@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer.
My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk out...
Just looking for some input ladies...do you think grade 3 students should be suspended for violence in school? Principal at our sons private school let us know today that another student “jabbed” our son with a pencil in the back today.....wound care was provided (my husbands headed to get him and take him to our family doctor for tetanus shot on their advisement) and I’m crushed for my little guy! I can’t help but feel this other boy should be suspended 😫 Am I wrong?
I don’t know what to do... my son is 9 months and he is lazy but aggressive... he wants to move around and he can turn around but he refuses to crawl and uses me to pull up to stand up... he doesn’t want to be bothered but wants the help ... he’s so peculiar...he can put himself to sleep but if I’m not in the room he’ll throw a fit until I pat him to sleep.. depending on how he feels... I’m loosing my mind because I don’t know how to deal with him
@anything4salinas, well said