When talking with my soon to be exhusband...he cheated on me...I don’t want to continue our…

can you reconcile? was it a mistake he made once or is he a total douche

@josefa, he talked to the girl for about 3 months met us with her three times and she is married with one kid going through a divorce...he said they only kissed and talked and that’s about it...I don’t know if I can believe that but I don’t have any trust for him and don’t think us working out will be a thing...but I know I’m going to need help...

No, don't do it! It's probably just a way to control you and I'm sure there are still feelings there son jealousy will be an issue

@faithhopelove, that’s what I was thinking!

@paigerue2013, damn... im so sorry! would your family be able to help you?

@josefa, my parents are young and work full time and my siblings are both in high school still and busy with sports :( they try to help out as much as possible but only can do so much and I understand...his family is just horrible...

I think that would be fine temporarily until you get on your feet. But you need to start making a plan to separate. I don't think it's healthy for you to be stuck depending on him. Do you have friends or family that you can stay with or have come stay with you? Are you able to work sitting at a desk or something?

That’s a tough one. I’m not sure that it would work out. I honestly have no advice, but maybe try? Only someone who’s actually been through something like this can give you some insight. What sucks is that both of you are done with the relationship😔 I think everyone deserves a second chance. I would hope that you two would be able to reconcile. Only time will tell. Good luck😔

I messaged you mama💕💕

@malbhurtado, I can not stay with family no room :(

Living together an co-parenting is ruff. It's good if hes actually going to help so you can get on your feet so you can be separate.

There’s no way you guys can coparent under the same roof. Now wouldn’t be so bad, but what about dating later on?

If you have feelings for him which most likely you still do, I think it would be best if you don't stay in the same house as him. Like you said, he cheated. That's when you guys were together. Imagine what it would feel like seeing him come and go whenever he wants. Talking to whoever he wants. It's only gonna hurt you. Don't depend on him. That will only give him reason to feel like he has some power over you. He can still be a dad to your kids even while not under the same roof.

I'm so sorry girl! 😔

I dont think its a good idea. If you still love each other maybe he can move out for a while and get in counseling and then see. If you make yourself financially dependent on someone who broke your trust, you will have to deal with that resentment constantly.

I think you are scared. If he's really a good dad he will do whatever baby needs financially and whatever you need to heal.

It's up to you but, speaking from experience once a major betrayal

happens its soo hard to move forward.

@anything4salinas, well said