Let me ask if your man working all day is it appropriate for him to come home and dinner not made im confused on some of…

If I got to stay home I’d make dinner for my husband. But I don’t have a husband I have a dumb ass boyfriend and I’m the one who makes all the money so I can’t stay home so idk why I’m even commenting

It's ok to not have dinner made when he gets home. Just because I'm not getting a paycheck doesn't mean that I'm not working my ass off. Keeping kids alive is hard work. Keeping the house and yard clean is hard work, and add in all the errands that need to be ran and all the little interruption I get all day long, yeah food won't always be ready when he comes home.

Yes it okay if food is not made because one would you want to get home from working all day and start eating or would you like to unwind get undressed to take a shower and relax and maybe have a drink and then have food done and be able to eat that or order something out.

@sboolay, so weird some of the most famous chefs in the world are men. Cooking is a survival skill I’d want my children to have male or female. It’s fun cooking together too. Helps with bonding and I thinks it’s good for anyone with children to see their parents working together if possible.

@destinyeunique, if we had a boy, we’d probably be teaching him that as well. We have friends that the husbands look at us weird when they see our schedule and my husband is scheduled in for dinner or dishes. lol

We mostly cook together because some men actually like to cook. I do most of the cleaning but don’t cook everyday he’s a better cook anyway and doesn’t care because he doesn’t make me feel like I should do anything. I do things because I want to, but also doesn’t mind helping with house duties because he’s not lazy. Women who feel this way usually end up stressed and doing everything by themselves including the children. A man would have to cook regardless if he was on his own but either way I raised in a household where both men and women cooked. I Plan to teach my son a well because he will not be waiting on a woman to or expecting her to do it like it’s her duty. 🤷🏾‍♀️

I know from experience, that when my husband is home alone with the kids he can’t/won’t cook, clean, or literally do anything else besides watch the kids. And usually he’s calling me after an hour bitching about how horrible it is, how messy the house is, or how hungry he is.

So i think it’s perfectly acceptable for me not to have dinner ready for him every day, when I can’t even run to the grocery store without it being a disaster when I come home.

I don’t have dinner done when my husband gets home. He tells me when he wants me to start cooking and that’s when I start cooking. He knows dinner usually takes an hour to cook so he always tells me when to start.

I don’t work and if I don’t feel like it I don’t make dinner. I also don’t have an excuse because my children are older. The way I see it is, I need days off too. Those days we just order in or eat out. If he’s not too tired from working he will actually cook(grill).

Me and my significant other both work the same hours maybe not the same job but he still expects dinner every night on top of me just taking care of the kids because he worked while I work too so it should be a team effort. I don't mind having dinner ready but I don't like to be made to feel that I should have it ready. On top of working I feed the kids, I bathe the kids, I do everything, make dinner cook, clean and everything else in between grocery shopping. yet men try to make you feel like it's your duty, even if you do have a job or not. My boyfriend comes home and works out or gets on the computer, goes and lays down and watching Tv. He wonders why I'm always upset when he's getting to do all that and I'm doing everything else. And my opinion, just because you have a job doesn't mean you get to come home and it ends. My children don't even ask him for anything because they know I do it all.

For us, dinner is started at a certain time and if he's home (oilfield life) we eat together. If not, the girls eat and get ready for bed. And him and I eat together. Lately he hasn't been home on time cause work is picking up again.

When I actually cook a big dinner my husband usually doesn’t show up for it and instead gets dinner with his work associates so I stopped cooking his ass dinner and I don’t like to eat heavy in the evening so I usually just cook something for my daughter. If my husband worked a regular job and actually came home to his family after work regularly then things would be different since my cooking would actually get eaten

@newmock Im all about making things work fr. And im thinking bout deactivating my account because i dont got time for ignorance

@vintagepony agreed totally my dad is from arkansas so i kno all bout the hard work at farms non stop job frfr but yes we all deserve a pat on the back ..😍

I really don’t like cooking but on my days off I try to have dinner ready. He doesn’t expect it but does want to know what I plan for dinner if It’s not. He never gives me a hard time when I say we’re just gonna eat left overs or what we find tonight. I’m on bedrest right now so he’s getting to play mommy for a little bit lol. Thinking he appreciates what I do more even if he only does 1/4 of it. My husband does love to grill out so if I have to ready he will do that.

@ilovemetolose, oh yeah it works perfectly for us. And we enjoy doing things together anyway so we usually end up helping the other out or at least hanging out while things are being done. Lol but yeah I know what you mean. It wasn’t like that when I first joined on here but the last couple months people have been getting kind of nasty on here. I don’t interact much on here anymore

I work while my husband is a SAHD. Honestly my opinion, but when I come home I expect there to be dinner (unless there's outside circumstances like our daughter was sick or something like that). It's part of his job and our agreement that he is to make dinner so that the 3 of us can eat together when I get home.

@ilovemetolose, it’s totally a give and take. It does take two to run a well functioning home and like I said. He’s picked up a lot of slack lately (and being on a farm I don’t always look the roll of housewife when he gets home 🤷🏼‍♀️) Just like kids every house is different. For example my mans hungry when he gets home, my brother lives the same life we do, he goes to work his wife takes care of their farm and horses, but dinner when he gets home is a waste because he’s never hungry right away. So they eat later...this works for them. My best friend doesn’t cook. She never has, her husband loves to cook. He works all day she drives bus. He cooks. It works for them. Everyone’s situation is different :) we all deserve a pat on the back 😉

@newmock okay that's understandable and it works for yall .. The only thing i dont like about this app is how you post what you feel n it's always somebody negative lol

We both work, but even if I didn’t I wouldn’t cook everyday. I only cook every now and then but it’s only because my husband genuinely loves cooking. Anytime I start cooking he always comes in and tries to take over. It’s something that he really enjoys doing so I just clean the house and do laundry and leave the cooking and yard work to him.

@shellbell0391 lol well thats understandable im not married yet .. But he makes the money im going off my savings account for the first trimester

@vintagepony Amen it may sound like im bitching but im not im very grateful for the life i have i might not be where i need to be just yet bit where working on establishing our foundation. I grew up the same way my mother did her duties and we all sat down and ate dinner at a decent time i just feel as a lady we are in charge of keeping the household together i could never see my man busting his ass to come home to dirty house nothing to eat and im in my pjs lounging on the bed looking gross no soon well have relationship problems because i call it lazy if i do that. Now i know we go thru pregnancy issues and hes empathetic to those things so some of the feedback im getting from some of these ppl is ridiculous every household performs different im keeping a happy home and on a daily we both show appreciation for one another..

If I got to stay home I’d make dinner for my husband. But I don’t have a husband I have a dumb ass boyfriend and I’m the one who makes all the money so I can’t stay home so idk why I’m even commenting

This pregnancy has been rough. So it’s been tough. First trimester and a half I was a write off. I have probably apologized to him more times in this time then ever before lol

HOWEVER, prior too and after, yes it should. Not only for him but to have a regular dinner routine for everyone. I grew up with a mother that ensured it like clock work despite working he family business running the side business (garden Center) and taking care of us kids. He’s picked up a lot of slack for the last nine months but even despite 28 farm animals, a barn to keep, 12 acres, three gardens and a pretty big house, two kids and their needs met I still typically ensure dinner is ready for everyone. I consider it apart of the job, and on the days where I have more on my plate (horses or more errands then normal) I pull out that crock pot and pre plan. He bust his ass like a super hero and makes us very good money. When I look at our bank account and the state he comes home in I feel although I bust my ass too with everything, he goes out and ensures we can have the life we have. He deserves dinner when he gets home. It keeps him motivated. I think if he were to come home to a messy home and no dinner he’d feel unappreciated.

@tiredmom thats good to know ima look into recipes thanks so much

@ilovemetolose allrecipes has an app with so really good ideas on it for crockpot meals. I had Hyperemesis with both of my pregnancies and that app was a life saver.

Thank you for insight i just been getting some negative feedback

@tiredmom yes and this is what im getting ready to start doing ..

@ilovemetolose I get that. Crockpot meals are great, toss everything in by at least 12 and it's ready by dinner. Or if you guys are able, on the days you're feeling really sick order delivery.

@tiredmom i understand what ur saying personally and no disrepect I wasnt brought up that way.. I just dont see myself waiting untill my man come home after working in the oil field to nothing to eat lol I find it to be selfish but every household performs different now dont get me wrong me being sick in my pregnancy this his first child so he doesnt understand all the side effects of pregnancy but hes not gonna force me to have dinner made. Hes understanding he'll order but please believe he will make sure his family gonna eat..

It's ok to not have dinner made when he gets home. Just because I'm not getting a paycheck doesn't mean that I'm not working my ass off. Keeping kids alive is hard work. Keeping the house and yard clean is hard work, and add in all the errands that need to be ran and all the little interruption I get all day long, yeah food won't always be ready when he comes home.