@briatta, it really is. ♥️

@bayou_donna, thanks girl you’ve helped me realize there is light at the end of this long dark tunnel

@briatta, good you are keeping the text just in case it goes to court. With the social.... they are going to mail that and his birth certificate to you.

@bayou_donna, hopefully when baby gets here he will change because he’s burned his bridges with my parents and can’t even come to the house to see his son when we leave the hospital he keeps saying fuck my parents we all can to go hell just crazy stuff girl and I have every last text message

@bayou_donna, wow girl our situations are very very similar lol he wants bash to be a third I refuse lol and I’ve had a couple of friends that said they regretted giving their children the fathers last name and I don’t want to regret anything else besides being with him so I am just going to give him mine I think it’s what’s best right now maybe when his father grows up he can get his last name but right now he’s just too immature he asked for his social security card already and I’m like why are you so worried about and he isn’t even here.... I come tax time I can see him trying to claim him and it being a huge mess but I’m not giving him nothing

Good you have a supportive family. That’s makes a big difference. If you go to the courts Its understandable for an infant to be close to its mother. I too struggled with the last name. He wanted him to be a jr. I didn’t go with that. I gave him his middle and last name. I’ve had some regret about not giving my baby my last name. Choose wisely because it’s hard to get change once they sign off for the father.

@bayou_donna, o yes girl my mom dad sister and cousins and ants will be there lol my family has been my back bone and my support system I just wanted him there also I just keep thinking about when we go to court I don’t want them to say I’m keeping my baby away from him but how does a person suppose to handle my situation he says he has no say so over his son and I’m like no you don’t because you don’t respect me and aren’t willing to compromise so it’s done and he’s just upset I’ve decided to give the baby my last name because I don’t feel he would do the right thing with those type of rights his father is a drunk his mom is just a nasty bitch their house is roach infested they live in a dump and he doesn’t have a pot to piss in so if something happens to me I rather my baby go with my family where I know he will be taken care of I struggled with the last name thing for so long

@briatta, I agree with you. Will family be there with you at the hospital? I can’t imagine doing it alone (without family) damn him.

@bayou_donna, really wow I figured it’s all talk but I’m tired miserable and vulnerable and just trying to do the right thing and him being childish isn’t helping and I don’t think I am going to let him come because he’s threaten me and said he would spit in my face twice I don’t want that stress while I’m in labor and I just feel that is best for me and baby I refuse to let his birthday be about drama

@briatta, I went through similar believe it or not. Fortunately he did and still does provide. But the bs with the dna test, yes I went through that. It was all “talk” though. Now that baby is here, he’s in love with him and wants everyone to know about him. He was there when I delivered but then homeboy was sleep a lot in the hospital and we would be arguing, I told his ass to leave. We end up getting into it at the hospital 😩 so just keep that in mind if you’re letting him come there, the setting won’t change much.

@bayou_donna, girl it’s very hard no feelings are there anymore I just want to damn co parent without the childish crap but every time I try to be the adult and update him he goes and fuck it up talking to me crazy... tells me I want to do a dna test because I don’t know who the father is but refuses to take the dna test and go to court but says he will sign the birth certificate 😂😂😂😂 which makes no since at all he said his mom doesn’t want to come to the birth because things aren’t being done right... I’m like fuck your mom she wasn’t invited... if she was in my position she would do the same thing when someone continuously disrespects you threatens you um she wouldn’t want to be bothered either and damn sure wouldn’t name her child after them.... he hasn’t brought him one thing well I havent seen anything he’s been partying and stressing my ass out he bragged that he told his job he was taking two weeks off for the baby but said he was going on vacation and that I won’t be on much of a vacation with a baby I was like well at least I’m going to be with my son.... he is so freaking childish it’s ridiculous I know this is bad but I wish he would just stop with the disrespect or just damn disappear because I don’t bother him I don’t text or call unless I am giving him an update about the baby I don’t ask for money I don’t ask for anything I let him live his life and I live mine but since I’m being induced soon I wanted him to at least be at the birth but he has fucked that up

@fancydadon, at all girl just immature I wish I could change my sons father but I can’t ugh I’m stuck with his immature ways for life that’s one reason I left his ass

@bayou_donna, hellooooo 🗣😂 ... yes!

@fancydadon, mines would have been y’all BD first cousin. Lol

But things are better now. (But we haven’t been intimate since I was pregnant... it’s been a year. ) that’s my only frustration now.

I’m sorry to hear that. It’s hard going through so much with a person you once loved or cared about and now about to have a child with. Just keep your distance, since it’s not healthy for you. When baby arrives you definitely won’t have the time for the BS. You’re the mother, you make the calls. 😉

@briatta, girl way worse. I feel like as being pregnant we shouldn’t have to go through the bs we go through. It’s sad how they don’t think about major stuff we go through as women. My bd & yours should be brothers cause that’s exactly how mines is. Sad mane.

@fancydadon, it’s so sad because men talk about bitter baby mommas but girlllll the baby daddies are worse.... this dude keeps saying he’s going to spit in my face and I’m not welcomed to his parents house I can drop my son off but I refuse to just drop him off neither him nor his family has called to check on my baby and I’m definitely not dropping him off while he’s a baby maybe when he’s older but until then I told him we can meet in public places and he goes to say he doesn’t want to see me or talk to me 🙄🙄🙄 I’m like dumb ass I’m his mother you’re going to have to see or talk to me....

@bayou_donna, I hate it so much girl I see so many women married or with their child’s father and mines won’t stop disrespecting me I just don’t understand why he is so upset I don’t disrespect him I don’t call him out his name I just want us to co parent... he tried so hard to make me jealous and talk about women and I am just tired I don’t want to be with him I want to co parent in a positive way

Girlllll tell me about it 😒...

Hopefully things will change when the baby comes. I went through a lot with my SO while I was pregnant and now that our son is in the picture, all that “talk” is gone. We aren’t together but neither do we have that kind of disrespect like before. Peace, Love, and Blessings to you Hun!