Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
Who else has financial issues within their relationship?? Or am I just lucky 🙄🙄 Not sure if I'm being just mean or what. But my SO used $160 from me this morning. I gave him my bank card because he needed $60 to get material for work. His boss was going to give it back to him at the end of the day. So instead of $60 he took out $160. Which I was a little pissed. (One of the reasons I just can't let him use my card. I have to go get the money from the atm myself if I'm giving it to him) then, tonight he asked for $20 incase his boss didn't give it to him. So I gave him my card not even thinking because I had kids running around me. I asked if he could pick up a few things that were out of and told him he could use my card if he has too. And I even told him not to get the expensive brands or anything m generic is fine. So he does. But when he does he decides to go Easter shopping for the kids. (Not sure if he used to my card or not) but if he did, I'd be even more pissed. He knows I have bills to pay on top of giving my son's school money that I owe them. He goes to a private school and I haven't paid in 5 months. It's towards the end of school now so I need to pay it. He knows this month I am extremely tight because of the school, im already in debt and my credit score sucks. I have been trying not to get in more debt and actually fix my credit. I'm so frustrated. It's like we have different priorities and different ideas on this. I feel like I'm completely drowning!!
So over this feeling! Ever since I've had ds, OH and I have fought my mother on not wanting to give ds a dummy just cause we don't like them and find he self soothes. For the past three times my mother has had him, she has gone against our rule and given him a dummy and of course I spoke to her about it (that's all my knowledge on how many times she's done it). On Sunday we celebrated my stepfathers birthday and due to OH working I had to do it alone which isn't the thing that bothered me. The thing that bothered me was no matter what I said regarding ds I wasn't listened to. I told my mother to sit behind ds if she was going to sit him up on the floor as he hasn't got the whole balance thing down pact but she didn't and then ds falls and starts crying cause he hurt himself, I picked him up and my mother just came and took him off me! I told her he can't forward face yet as he is below the shoulder line in order to forward face but they did anyway. I get it's her first grandchild and she's excited but I never got to share the news about ds's first tooth or his first attempt at crawling to the family because she already done it. Yes I know, I probably sound petty asf! I had to repeatedly ask my mother to take me and ds home as he was tired and close to the over tired stage. On the way home ds fell asleep, luckily I was sitting beside him and looked at him cause he had fallen asleep and had his head facing down so I quickly grabbed his head and held it up till we got home.
It’s no problem when my money is covering my husbands part of the bills but god forbid when it’s time for him to pay me back no only does he give me a little at a time when I wasn’t paying bills little at a time but he always try to play this guilt card talking about I got no money well I don’t got money either when I have to pay ur portion I don’t feel bad
opinions? I told Jeff I want to leave. He said that he doesn't love me and I feel the same way about him. However when I asked him if I could keep paying my share of the bills while saving enough to leave he said if I'm going to leave I need to go now. This is what he always does. He says he doesn't want me but when I try to leave he manipulates me.
marlena jones ·
Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года)
@rowdy-vajazzy He claims I knew and I saw occaisal lottery tickets when we got together a few years ago. He not willing to get help. Its other folks in his family that have the funds to gamble big. And they get good results when they do win. He is trying to be like them. Except we freaking poor!
But he never asked me for money. I never had to cover him in bills. After his mom passed last year I assumed it was his way of grieving! But after seeing over $100 a week missing I had to get noisy and put my foot down.
marlena jones ·
Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года)
@micjulzac3 girl I have came up with good hiding spots.
Michelle ·
Мама четверых детей
We had a rule dont. Touch my purse so that is where I kept mine
marlena jones ·
Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года)
@micjulzac3 I had that going on for ourn1st child. Until one day he checked the mail. And a statement had her name on it. And with my tax money I try to do that also. But I fucked up when I left my stub in my car. And he took my car one morning.
Michelle ·
Мама четверых детей
When i had a lazy SO that spent money we didn't have I opened a savings account he knew nothing about and put money in it he didn't know was going into it. Saved money and he had no clue.
Rowdy Vajazzy·
Мама двоих (3 года, 5 лет)
I’m glad you put your foot down. I’m sorry he has lied to you and has a gambling addiction. Is he open to getting help?