So after my SO and I had our daughter, we both agreed to wait for our next baby. We had a 5 year…
So after my SO and I had our daughter, we both agreed to wait for our next baby. We had a 5 year plan, we were planning within 5 yrs after having my daughter(she’s 2 next month) that that would be enough time for us to buy a home, finish school, get married, etc. We agreed not to get pregnant, and if it happened within our 5 yr we couldn’t keep it.. we would try for a baby after the 5yrs. We are only using condoms as far as preventing. I’m scared to get any other type of birth control due to the effects it has had with close family. Well ever since I had my daughter I been having regular periods, getting it every month (I used to be irregular before). And I’m a week late and I’m scared I can possibly be pregnant. I know my SO and I agreed not to keep it if it happened but I honestly don’t think I can go through with it, if I am pregnant 😭
He already has 2 kids prior to our daughter, which is why he didn’t want anymore. He compromised to give me another one only because he knows I wanted more kids. I’ve accepted his kids as mine but it’s not the same how they treat me, they are kids still so I know it can be tough them thinking I can possibly be taking their mom’s place and they choose to sometimes keep their distance with me.
Well I don’t think I can go through with terminating the pregnancy IF I do happen to be pregnant 😭
With his other kids mother, he has told me he didn’t want to keep his second child at the time since they weren’t even together even before baby #1( long story) but they kept it.
And all I can think of right now is why not keep mines if we are together, happy and have a good relationship with each other and in love. I know it’s not in our “plans” but I don’t think I can go through with it. And all I wanna do is cry! 😭 I’ll try to test tomorrow or within a couple days, and hope I’m not pregnant and just late because I know I can’t go through with terminating it 😭
I don’t know who tell but I can’t keep it in so I’ll just let it out here...
katrina ploszay·
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If he loves you he will understand and plans change it’s life
K·
Please don’t terminate! You don’t want to so if u do it may leave you extremely depressed. Babies are a blessing. You’ll be ok!!
Mimi·
Why not just take a test instead of stressing yourself out over something that may not even be? Your a week late which means you can take any pregnancy test even a dollar store one at this point. You stressing could be the reason your period is late.
Cams ·
Take a test, stop worrying about what ifs and have the conversation if it comes down to it.
Shannae3 ·
Take a test then let that tell u ur next move. ur thinking to much and worry already when u may not need to.
Kasandra Featherston ·
If you’re not wanting to terminate(I wouldn’t either) than if he loves you he will agree and understand. You have a opinion and choice too, it is your body and you’re the one who will have to go through the emotional issues afterwards
Yaya Carrington·
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Even if the test is negative, you should talk to him about your change of heart. He needs to know where you currently stand. I would also suggest a second form of birth control along with the condoms so that you have more peace of mind in the future.
Diana·
Update, you guys were right.
I just needed to express to him how I felt, and stop over reacting. We talked it over and he told me it’s something he doesn’t want me to do either.
He knows I will always think of it if I do.
He told me not to worry even though we just use condoms, he says he makes sure he doesn’t finish inside with the condom.
I’m scared of BC ☹️😩 my little sister had the iud and it misplaced and it ended up being hooked on her colon and it made a cut on her colon too. She had to have surgery to get the BC out. They couldn’t find it at first either for a couple months.
And a close friend she had the one that’s on your arm, it bruised her arm badly that she have to take time off work since it was painful to move, that’s within a week of having it 😖 I know everyone is different, I’m just scared of all that happening to me😣
And I tested and it was negative 🙌😬☺️
Maybe it’s just stress why my period is late, I was stressed with school but the semester just finished this week. 👐
Mimi·
@diannajayy, I am totally against iud I had one and it got stuck in my cervix, the implant is not legal in Canada so it has never been an option, but the pill definitely is an option that isn’t scary.