Anytime. This is what we are supposed to be here for, to support each other.

And mama... Just thank you. Being able to talk to other women helped.

Angel...thanks so much...

I'm scared of bb sometimes but tonight, you ladies pulled me out the gutter.

Sometimes it's good to just get things out. You'll explode if you keep everything bottled up inside. I hope you take some steps to protect yourself from this awful woman.

My SO was adopted when he was 2 months old. His bio mom had him for 2 months and then just left him at a church. Which wasn't under the safe haven law or anything but they dropped the charges once they found an adoptive family. He tried searching for his mother, against his parents advice, only to find out she died not long after due to an overdose. His bio father continued to have more children that were placed in various foster homes or with family members. He went to meet him not too long after we found out we were pregnant. He was awful. Trying to get money from my SO, still using drugs. I feel like he just wanted to know where he came from. His adoptive family is Egyptian and he is white. They carried many different beliefs that he just never could follow for himself. He saw how much of a POS his dad was and how ever much he thought his adoptive family wasn't right for him, he realized he was lucky to have grown up where he did. Who knows where he could have been now if he stayed with his bio mom.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. It's not ok for anyone to bring up some else's trauma. Especially for her. She should be thrilled that you even gave her a chance. Please block her. Cut off all communication. She will only bring you down.

Insane is putting it mildly. My siblings used to be like "moms crazy " I just didn't or wouldn't see it at that point.

I had a feeling she was bipolar from reading the screenshots earlier. That's what's wron g with hubbys mother. She's bipolar and schitzophrenic. When she goes off her meds it's insane. Like out of a movie insane. I swear some days she reminds me of the crazy redhead in urban legend.

I talked to my so of a year and my son's father about this. When I posted I was in a heap at the foot of my bed, hyperventilating.

So was no help, son's father reminded me one of the reasons we're no longer together.

I'm just so grateful. Thank you. It's been rolling around in my head for weeks and this is the first night its a little better.

She used to give me shat for taking my meds. " there is nothing wrong with you. You're a black woman". Her own mother, my grandmother, tells her she's off her nut.

You know, as a diagnosed adult its obvious that shes bi polar. I know she's sick thats why i was more than willing to look past everything. I was just happy to be able to look at her and my siblings and see where i belonged. But she is truly the most unstable person I've ever known. I use to feel so ungrateful for my adoptive parents.

Now, I'm just sorry. ..

I honestly wish I'd never net her.

Didn't read the comments, but I'd probably go to counseling to talk it out. Good luck hun.

Lol no joke though. Every time hubbys mother goes off her meds I always remind him that he's her oldest child he can have her locked away in a looney bin. I always hope one day he will. She's crazy as all get out and go. ?

Couldnt see other post just wanna say eff her and do you ??? you got this and please dont let her have that control afain..you are a much better person than she ❤

Lol angel, I am the oldest and i might just do that lol.

I normally wouldn't post something THAT personal but like I said, you ladies are the closest thing I have to female friends.

I had posted an ultrasound of DS once and didn't block out something and it was taken down because it's against TOU to reveal personal info of anyone. They probably didn't know it was a fake name. I'm sorry though.

So much better now that i let it out. It's been eating at me for weeks. Thank you. All of you.

Well that was just one of her pseudonyms but hey

How are you feeling now love? I've been worried for you.

I *think* it's because the name wasn't blocked out.

I really appreciate all of you ladies rallying around me. I was about to lose it. But letting it out helped sooo much. And i think i will file harassment charges.

Sadly that's how bb works. Just like if you put someone in their place for being ignorant your comment gets taken down yet theirs stays and their comment usually is so disrespectful that it's sickening.

Can you ladies offer opinions on why my posts were deleted? I blacked out all curse words. But post calling out and disrespecting another user stay up over an hr????

Hoping you're feeling better ❤️

Hey you know if you are her oldest child you could technically have her committed for mental evaluation ? that would really piss in her cornflakes. Sorry you have to put up with that shat. Just laugh at her and move on because deep down you know that she's just a sad miserable person and she's jealous of how good your life is.

I'm so, so sorry Love ? my heart goes out to you, I know we don't know one another but you need the strongest support system you can find right now. And my inbox is always, always open to you if you ever just need someone to throw all of your stuff out to without any judgment or fear. Much love and peace to you ?? also, I don't know where you are located but I'm in Virginia at the Tennessee State Line near North Carolina and Kentucky also. I'm in a Tri-State kind of area. If you live anywhere near those places at all, message me.

But it's not. None of this is on you at all.

Thats HER fault and she obviously cannot take responsibility for how she has failed yall. She will continue to blame others... Its not your fault its HERS. She choose that life you cannot control who brought you into this life and how they raised you BUT TODAY you can control you and make better of the situation for your family and be the mom you always wanted and needed!! Going backwards wont help.. I wish I could hug you.

I know the struggle of addiction..

Shes made me to be the monster of my childhood and I'm not. We got taken from her, i found and tried to love her still and she's hurting me after all this, the fas the neglect, the abuse and its all back on me

Someone told me once that the biggest influence in a child's life is the same sex parent. Your mother failed you. I'm so very sorry she did but she did. You can't fail your children. I know its so easy to say and hard to do but please just give yourself time to be calm. Focus on the hour. Just give yourself one more hour of sobriety. Short term goals. You can even take it by the minute. Remember to keep breathing. Is anyone there with you? Can you call someone to come over?

I dont know, i don't know its just got me soo facked

And he's gunna come home to me a fackin wreck and not know what to do

What can we do to help? I'm not sure where you're located OP. Just try to calm yourself at this time. Breathe deeply. Look at the things around the room you're in. Focus on them. Don't let your mind slip into bad places. Just continue to breathe and look at those things you can actually see, touch.

Relapse.. No girl please dont let her have that kinda control baby needs momma clean!

In your settings I think you can even make it so your profile is unsearchable, if it's Facebook that you're on. If she doesn't stop then I'd report it to the police and dont worry about her being vindictive because screenshots and a police report will show how unstable she is and anything she tried to do to you won't be taken seriously

This has sent me into a relapse

I'm sorry for even posting it here but i need help

There is an option on Facebook to only receive messages from friends. Or just delete your Facebook.

Oh no. Please don't let her get you to this point. Do you have any other support system you can go to right now??

I keep blocking her. She keeps making new profiles

Guys I'm at my breaking point over this. That's how facked up she's got me. I'm about to admit myself

Do not let her words control you! You are better than that. She can continue to live in her own self pity.. But you can turn it around for yourself. Id leave her alone.. I know its hard but that is unnecessary stress for you. Who is she to judge you!!

So she's saying that bc it happened to you, that you would do that to your kids?

Well that's not true and there are a lot of us on here who can attest to that. She's using that because that's the thing she could think of that would sting the most. It's juvenile and downright evil. I don't see anything positive coming from trying to salvage that relationship. She is not a good person, but that doesn't mean you aren't. Our toxic mothers are not entitled to remain in the lives of kids they chose to give up. I'd block her in every way possible and never look back. She has no power over you and you're gonna do all you can to make sure your kids don't experience what you did and that's all that matters.

I want to file harassment charges but shes so vindictive who knows what she would do.

Being molested facked me up so bad and what she said makes me feel like trash

Share. It will be ok

Im so sorry sweetie ❤

She wont change.. This wont change ? no matter how she feels shes not taking your feelings into consideration. For her tp say that is awful. You do not want that mess around u and your baby while you are trying to do what's best for yall.

Yes hola it hurts so bad that she would say that

I'm so sorry op that u have to deal with this. I know its ur bio mother but that is just a toxic relationship n very unhealthy to u n ur family since u r still growing from this. I think u should cut off contact from her. Its awful, I mean absolutely awful for u to confide in her something so sensitive n for her to throw that back in ur face n what's worse to involve ur son into that mess...smh

I just dont know what to do. I never held it against her. I tried to love her past it, and she used my struggle to hurt me. I'd never molest anyone, but I was strung out on drugs before my son. She lost us for the same reason. I don't know why i cant just get over it.

And to be clear, for 6 yrs i was molested by the pastor of our church. I confided this to her and here we are.

My sister gave up her son and daughter to live a life of drugs. 10 years later she is being forced (probation) to do what's best.. Poor babies miss their mommy... ?

OP aside from the race dynamic it sounds like we've had a similar experience. Vent!

K there are so many nasty words ive got to photoshop it. I just can't get over it. She lost us bc she was addicted and even denies the 8th child's existence.

Share all you want. We are here to support each other ni matter what ❤️

I need to share it somewhere. I thought about posting it on everyone's fb but I'm not that cold. I can't talk about it with so cuz he's so stoic about EVERYTHING. I just can't stop thinking about it.

Let it all out girl..

I know sometimes it just needs to be let out i personally would never hold something over someone's head. You dont know what someone is going through or gone through.

We are definitely here for you if you need to vent I know what it's like not having anyone to turn too. There may be a few smarty butts but there is also some really great ladies on here who actually care! ❤️

It's fine by me if you share ❤️

Bb may never forget but it's the same if you told someone in person and they used it against you so don't let the handful of a****** s stop you from seeking support. There are way more good people on here anyways:)

And there's so much more. ...

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