I don't think money should be a factor on who does what around the house. It should be a matter on how exhausted one is and how much free time is available. I'm a sahm so I mostly do all the cleaning but he does help especially if I had a rough day with the baby. But I try to do most things just b/c his work is physically demanding.

Even! A marriage is a partnership. I’ve been home with my son, and my husband still does dishes, garbage, cat sand and makes dinner

@its.sarah @mrschanandlerbong95 @masseymomma16 @mrschanandlerbong95 @carogx3 @p-b-jelly @glencoco @retroskylar

Thanks for everyone's responses. I do feel that if finances REALLY don't matter then I should just be able to quit my job with no complaints if I'm also expected to solely maintain the home. Which will not happen since when I say contributes more financially I'm talking like 80/20, not 60/40. Also, exhaustion is subjective....whose to say whose more exhausted, the person at home with 2 under 2 or the person at work. I think housework should be divided evenly, but I appreciate all of the perspectives

@its.sarah when you say by yourself you mean with your 1 year old right ? What percentage of your time at home is taken up by tending to her ?

I think it should be even or the person who has more days off and is in the house more should help more around the house. I don’t think just because you make more money you don’t have to help around the house. I’m a sahm and my husband is a truck driver and is gone all week besides the weekend. I take care of the house because I’m home 90% of the time by myself. But when my husband is home he is in charge of all baby duties (cause it’s his baby too , and I take care of her 5 days when he’s not here to help me) and takes out the trash because those are the things I ask him to help with.

@mrschanandlerbong95 not really about keeping score...about feeling like someone is putting more effort into sustaining the household than someone else. I think it's fair to look at balance so that you both don't go crazy

Whoever is home more often, would normally do more at home.

However, it’s sounds like y’all are “keeping score” which is no way to have a relationship.

@angylynn22 he should definitely be helping with the kids and from the other comment to did about what you want help with seems fair enough.

@masseymomma16 I really just want him to clean the kitchen and cut the grass when needed. Simple enough I thought. Lol . Oh and help with kids more

@carogx3 we both work nights so any day we work, We're home all day. I do a lot with kids even on my work days.

@angylynn22, kids are always equal. And I would say 70/30. Take into consideration the time each chore takes. Most of ours take an hour or less. But he does more when it comes to mowing which he does on Saturday.

I basically do all the chores on MWF and he does T TH S and nothing on Sunday. The. We also have a "monthly chore list" Like cleaning the blinds/curtains etc

Look online there is a lot of templates to use.

@p-b-jelly it does. So cut the grass when needed and clean the kitchen is not too much to ask then ? And wake up to help with the kids for at least a couple hrs. He only has the kids 1 day/wk. The other day I work my parents have them, so he gets a day just for himself . I never get a day just for myself.

@angylynn22 kids should be an equal responsibility.

@angylynn22 I think every situation is unique so I can't put a # on it. Like for example my husband works 5 days a week from 7 and he gets home anywhere from 4-9pm . On days that he gets off early sometime he will cook, or wash dishes while I cook, or play with the baby while I do laundry. On those days he helps with bedtime after I give the baby a shower. On days he had lots of work he doesn't do anything and I don't expect him to.

Also, Should they help with kids at all on days that they work ? An infant and toddler

So what percentage of work should the person who works 5 days/wk be doing as far as household work ? Or is none okay ? @retroskylar @masseymomma16 @glencoco @p-b-jelly @carogx3

Just because someone makes more money doesn’t mean that they don’t have to contribute as much around the house. I would hope that the person who has 5 days off of work would help out more around the house as opposed to the person who only has two days off.

Financially doesn't matter at all. Obviously the one who only works two days may be able to take on a little more than the other just bc he/she has more time to do them. But both should contribute. If it's causing issues make up a "chore board". My house has one and it just helps to keep organized and no guessing at who is going to do what.

I'm a stay at home mom and my husband still helps cook laundry and make sure all cars ate clean and have gas.... not to much the baby but he dose take the bigger kids out to give me nice quiet time with our youngest...

I don't think money should be a factor on who does what around the house. It should be a matter on how exhausted one is and how much free time is available. I'm a sahm so I mostly do all the cleaning but he does help especially if I had a rough day with the baby. But I try to do most things just b/c his work is physically demanding.

Even. If it’s not even then the person who works less. Even though you make more working two days a week, the person working 5 days a week is probably exhausted from working that much. My husband works 6/7 days a week most of the time and I pick up the slack because he works hard. I work 3 days a week. Money isn’t a factor for us but rather how much physical exhaustion we have.

@p-b-jelly you don't feel like that's imbalanced for the person to contribute more financially and household tasks ?

Even! A marriage is a partnership. I’ve been home with my son, and my husband still does dishes, garbage, cat sand and makes dinner