I saw this a few weeks ago I had to share
I saw this a few weeks ago I had to share
Stay at home mom (SAHM) depression....
The elephant in the room nobody talks about ☹️
I mean, how DARE you complain after being gifted this opportunity to stay at home and raise YOUR own kids 🤦🏽♀️ but it's not that simple. Of course we SAHM's are being grateful to stay home and raise our young BUT that it's literally all we become.
No one talks about the isolation.
No one talks about the loss of identity.
No one talks about the loneliness.
No one talks about losing your sense of self.
No one talks about how you had to give up your career because it's cheaper for you to stay home.
No one talks about how you cry in the shower because your day was overwhelming.
No one understands why you're tired.
No one understands why you're irritable.
No one understands why you need a mental break.
No one understands why you're so aggravated with your kids.
No one understands why after you've been home all day, the house is a wreck still.
No one understands why you just need 5 minutes with no one speaking to or tSng you.
No one understands why you've lost your sex drive.
No one understands why you're completely & utterly exhausted, after all, you just sit at home all day 😒
No one understands the feeling you have when you are told you don't have a "real job".
Most of us were working women at one point. We got to go to a job and interact with other adults outside our home. We contributed financially to our household. (Shoot, most of us want some kind of side hustle or part time job because it would sure help with financial relief) We didn't feel like an endless maid. We got that break away (even though yes, work is a love/ hate relationship) that gives you space from the people you live with (children, spouse... Etc) because yes, EVERY relationship needs time away in it to not go crazy being around each other 24/7. That's not healthy. Contrary to popular belief...
YOU👏NEED👏A👏 BREAK 👏 DAILY 👏
I can't tell you how many women I meet or know that say "oh, you have to much time on your hands" "I sure wish I could stay home, I wouldn't complain" good for you! I can guarantee you will change your mind 6 months in, unless you're wealthy and have money to constantly go do things. I once was you. I wished upon a star I could stay home with my kids because I wanted to spend all the time I could. I didn't realize what all came with being a SAHM.
Oh but YOU chose to have those kids. YOU should've thought about that before having them. If you didn't want to go through all this YOU should've never had kids. & YOU said you want more????
Seriously.... Yup, heard those all before.
Next time you hear or see a SAHM venting her frustrations, listen and make her feel like she's somebody. That her struggles are not invalid. You know just because she don't have a "real job"
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@karensmommy Thanks for understanding. And I'm sorry your going through this.
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This is so true. I unfortunately had another mother who only worked 4 hours a day 5 days a week who flat out told me that I don't deserve a break I don't deserve to go out with friends because I'm a stay-at-home mom. There are many others that have crossed my path that had said things as well. People don't understand that we don't have a 9 to 5 job. Me for example I've got typically a 5 a.m. to 11 p.m. job 7 days a week. You do lose your identity and you lose everyone's respect and acknowledgement. You pretty much become for walls, I need, a laundry lady, a nurse, a chef, a referee, a therapist.... etc. Nobody ever gives a s hit. It's funny how things become backwards. You end up having the hardest job in the world and everybody treats you like you sit around at home all day eating bon bons and watching soap operas. I get told I don't do anything all day so when people compliment the way my home looks or anything else I say that the housekeeping fairies were here, the laundry fairy were here, the cooking fairies were here and so on because according to others I don't do anything. Yet my house is clean, my laundry is done, my daughter is fed happy healthy and clean, all of my errands are run and so on. Nothing's ever perfect but I do the best I can and I think I do a great job.