@bulmabreigh3, once the baby is here, and going through the first months and whatnot will show me what I need to see to be able to know for sure it’s the right thing to do or not

@amberjacq, its frustrating, specially when they make time for petty things such as going on fb rather then knowing things are ok or not.

It’s rude when they do that, I know for a fact he doesn’t like when I don’t listen to him, but ok for him to it? Men brains are wired backwards I swear

Ugh same my husband can play games but not text me back or listen to a word I say 🤦🏻‍♀️

@bellylove44, yeah I can totally see that and it would probly work if I ignored him abit but yet I’ve done that and he’s backlashed harder..

and honestly it’s not a little thing, since I’ve been prego he disappears from a day to over week, and just gets wasted.. I know he can be sober, and it irks me now he’s deciding not to be, out of all times, then he won’t even respond to me bc he knows he’s in the wrong.. what if something was happening like me having contractions at 30 weeks again or just labor now.. he’s just gonna be gone or drunk?! Makes me mad, he rather pick that then be a man rn for me since I was there for him throughout.. it’s disrespect. And I’ll never take that as something little.

@lizsouthwick I FEEL THIS.

If i can give you any advice. Itll be what i do when i start to get that way. I focus only on me n my kids and this pregnancy. I do this and then i think he feels ignored. I become so busy with fully diving into projects that i come up with and now school work, im so busy bettering my life for my kids the little stuff like this wont bother me. Then guess whose completely up my butt. Believe me it works everytime and u will become empowered. I think we sweat the little things in pregnancy. My thoughts n prayers are with you love.

@lizsouthwick, ty, he makes me feel crazy for thinking theses things, makes me feel not so shut down knowing that. Thank you for letting me vent and being there, seems like we’ve had similar situations..

Like a nightmare sometimes

@joyfulmom2b, I ask myself the same questions. It sucks we care sometimes if that makes any sense. Either way, it will be hard. But you can have a blessed life & feel happy. Just don’t lose yourself girl your beautiful children need you & all that love you give ❤️

@lizsouthwick, yeah honestly feels like another cover saying that, making ya feel like u have a reason to stay... bc ur being the mature one and handling everything. Ur right though, it’s becoming a burden to even express to him anything.. doesn’t seem like he’s comprehending or cares enough to want to try more.. he just gives me the whole I know how many other guys that do this blah blah.. and my response is always well they also aren’t with the mothers of their children.. smh 🤦‍♀️ idk if he’s happy with me anymore, I feel like he would be if I just didn’t care which makes no sense to me at all. But ur right my LO shouldn’t grow up to think this is ok, like my SO has, I feel like he’s just repeating what his parents did even though he knows it’s not cool.

I think about it sometimes like if he’s disappointing on me and doing this to me while pregnant... is he just gonna do this to our son..? Like that would be complete breaking point with or without him, him disappointing our son bc he’s selfish

@joyfulmom2b, yea mine said the same.. & yes, it’s because we’re good! Of course they’re happy we are the mother, they know we can take care of everything while they can do whatever. It’s easy. Sure, it’s a compliment & seems so sweet but I get it. We’re responsible & loving:) I want nothing more than a happy, close family but I realize I cannot change him & I don’t want the burden of thinking I can. While he was happy with me, I was not happy with him. I don’t want my sons growing up thinking that’s how you love a woman. Nor do I want them thinking if it’s hard just leave.. so it’s a huge & extremely hard decision but you’ll figure it out when the time is right. Seriously tho, don’t let him steal your joy. You are a strong, awesome mom & you can be happy without relying on someone to make you happy!

@lizsouthwick, I’m trying not too, but it’s so hard, I wanted a happy family and I don’t drive either which makes this all more frustrating. Sigh..

At times he says I’m so glad that out of everyone That ur gonna be the mother of my child, why bc Ima live for my child and love them like no other and u can sit back and tell pple how u have the life without helping or actually being there. Im so frustrated with his pigheadedness grr

Time to cut your losses and be the best mom you can to your baby

@joyfulmom2b, I’m here for ya! Don’t settle on being miserable!

@lizsouthwick, me either and that drives me nuts not understanding why or how he can behave like that.

I agree with that also, it’s not hard to show someone “u love” respect and love.. seriously! I’m sorry to hear that though, u really pulled a lot of weight and deserved better.. my SO just lost his job and I’m not working.. so yay more stress and all he cares abt is 4 wheeling and his bday coming up smh 🤦‍♀️ and that’s most certainly true abt men.. and honestly have not a clue on how to get them to re focus on what’s important 🤷‍♀️ and thank you so much, I appreciate ur input and making me feel not alone currently

@joyfulmom2b, I don’t understand it. I just know that’s not what I wanted! I also felt, especially that I’m carrying your child, you should be showing me love & respect.. he always said he did..?! Uhhh ok wtf. On top of raising a child, working full time, fully taking care of the household duties, errands, ministry work, etc... I am pregnant! I have so many things going on with my health & he really just did not care! It hurts badly. It’s so easy for some men to become complacent & have no ambition to do more. It sucks. I will pray for you girl. You’re not crazy!! ❤️ I understand you!!

@lizsouthwick, omg yea mine started pulling that, “ yeah ok mom, whatever u say” bs!!! God that actually makes me angry, bc before I was pregnant u respected my opinion and acted like u cared abt my feelings at least. And that’s sooooo true!!! Yet they don’t understand or just don’t care.. which is sooo messed up. Love should most definitely be felt! Definitely feel like what I say is being disregarded and my feelings anymore.

Sooo true it is.. that just annoys me more ugh..

@joyfulmom2b, I knowwww!!! Same! Mine always said you act like a mother towards me, I would say well then stop acting like a disrespectful child. I should not ever feel urged to see why you’re ignoring me. I should not have to feel alone in my relationship. Love should be felt! You should care & he never really did. It was clear to me. I did so much for that man.. loved him, forgave over & over, supported him, cared for his health, listened to his thoughts & concerns, etc.. and I was disrespected & my feelings were disregarded. I was also told, you’re crazy, your hormonal, etc.. it’s an easy way out for them to just blame something then swipe it under the rug. F that!!!! Bye boy!

@lizsouthwick, exactly he doesn’t get it, he doesn’t even comprehend how the crap he does hurt. He’s given me barely any respect throughout this pregnancy and has been nothing but selfish.

His priorities are pple that literally don’t care abt him at all or him making better decisions, and somehow after everything I’ve been there for him threw, I’m last priority?! Like not even a I’m ok, or I love you or are you ok? Nothing, nothing at all.

I feel like he’s spitting in my face throughout this. But I’m just crazy and it’s hormones.

My hormones make me ball my eyes out during this, not make up some feelings of him disrespecting me.. sry ranting

That made me crazzzzy!!! Idk what it is about respect but some dudes just can’t. I got tired of feeling that way. Like, I would check fb too, etc & began to hate myself for doing it but I couldn’t help it lol. Then I became numb as well.. then that was it. Done

Girl 💓💓