@iwannaplay, I do love him. We’ve been together for years and we lived together before we got married and had a baby but it seems like over the years he just got worse. I’ve never tried to change him but I have asked him to do simple things around the house but like I said he’s like a kid.. he’ll take off his clothes and leave him in the bathroom on the floor or in the closet on the floor next to the hamper... he’ll eat and leave a wrapper on the table or floor. He’ll clip his nails and I’ll find them under the couch or on the carpet. He’ll take a shower but leave the bathroom a wreck... all I’ve ever asked from him is to clean up after himself and help me with our son but it’s like a huge responsibility for him because he’s so use to his mother doing everything for him... and it really started nothing me after I had Zach and realized how much i have to actually clean up when my husbands around

Nothing you’ve said is positive in the least. He is who he is. He shouldn’t have to change at all unless that’s his desire. Say 5 more years pass and he’s still the same guy he is today would you be happy could you be happy knowing that you stayed possibly brought more kids into the relationship and all you did was waste years in a relationship with someone you aren’t happy with. Someone you think should change.

If he’s childish lazy and nasty why were you having sex with him? (Don’t answer that to anyone but yourself) if he’s all these negative things that you say how can you claim to love him but want to change who he is. Do you love him or do you want to ‘fix’ him

@iwannaplay, because I do love him and I feel like if he actually tried it would be better but he’s the type of person that doesn’t put any effort into anything and takes things as they are... he has some good points but he’s still a child and it’s like I have to wait for him to grow up... the things he does and says is childish and lazy so it’s like an extreme mamas boy.

If that’s the way you feel why are you wasting your time and his?

@virgosweetness, I feel like I’m still in love with mine but I’m just tired of him... I don’t know if it’s because I need a mini vacation away from him or if it’s because he’s just childish and lazy and nasty and can’t see when he’s wrong

In starting to realize I luv my man and appreciate everything he does for us but in not in love with him and don't want to hurt him so I am stuck. It's eating at me tho. I deal with this all inside my head and heart.

Yessssss

If I were you I would try and work it out with a couples counsellor to make sure you really can’t make it work. And from someone who had parents who married young and weren’t a great fit — it’s better to have two happy parents in separate households than in the same one fighting all the time and resenting each other. Luckily you’re young so moving on and starting a new life is that much easier.

🙋‍♀️...at this point I wish I would've never got married

@aileen_west, I don’t know what do it but everyday just feeling harder and harder