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Selena laluangphet
Moms and future moms.
I’m curious as to why you decided to have a baby or decided to keep your baby if he/she wasn’t planned? Basically what was your point/reasoning/feelings on having a child(ren)?

I want some legit raw real answers, because I feel that we’re all so different (yet alike) that there’s has to be more than one basic reasoning. (:
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knockout

@akita_mommy, love hearing stories like this! GOD is amazing

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selena_lalu

@ceceandgianny216, and that’s ALL that matters, no matter how young or old. Taking care of YOUR human being((:

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selena_lalu

@akcatprincess, your definitely not. I’m fortunate to have young healthy parents (for the most part, my mom did fight cancer but for now it’s gone). However, my husbands mom is old and I’m glad that God willing she will get to be apart of my child’s life when my child comes. My husbands father passed away about 4 years ago, and it’s hurts me knowing my daughter will have never known him, I never even got the chance to meet him. But that’s okay. (:

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selena_lalu

@ceceandgianny216, my parents were great, thank God. But they struggled like hell! They taught me exactly who I want to be as a parent. First one in my family to go to college and I’ll have my Bachelors this summer. They taught me exactly who I don’t want to be as a parent, but in a more positive way. I will never allow my daughter to see me struggle. I don’t want her to think everything’s gonna be handed to her, but I don’t want her to feel how I felt with my mom. Watching her struggle hurt my core. I’m sure your doing great momma! You seem very mature!

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akcatprincess

Thanks for the validation!! It feels good. I actually haven’t mentioned that reason to anybody yet, but it was definitely played a big part in our decision to have our baby now instead of later. Glad I’m not alone in thinking about the grandparents :)

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selena_lalu

@ceceandgianny216, 14!!!! Wow girl. That’s awesome to me that at such a young age you took care of yours. (:

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selena_lalu

@akcatprincess, that’s not a weird reason at all!!! My husband also mentioned wanting to have a child now because his mom is getting old and wants his mom to be able to meet and be some part of our child’s life. My granny is also 90 years old and I hope she’ll make it to meet my baby.

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db413

I got pregnant at 23. It was unplanned. We had the discussion ahead of time. I wasn’t on birth control and he knew it. And he said if it happens it happens. If it doesn’t. Then oh well. We decided to keep our son because we both felt we were ready.

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akcatprincess

I’m 20 years old and just had my son a couple weeks ago. Wasn’t planned, but wasn’t really prevented either... part of the reason me and my boyfriend decided to keep the baby was because his father is sick, doing okay but we never know when he’ll get sicker and we wanted our kids to be able to meet him.. cuz we knew we wanted kids one day just not so soon. Might be a weird reason to some people but 🤷‍♀️ it made sense to us.

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selena_lalu

@babynessa, @reevespartyof4, I think these type of stories are so great. You struggle and took this little life as a sign that there is something bigger for you in life!! There are those parents that don’t take this sign their given and make their child struggle with them and only “talk” about doing better. It’s great that y’all are working on action. Goodluck to yalls families

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babynessa

I got pregnant at 19. I mean I was married. My husband was in the military. We always wanted a baby one day. We knew what we were doing not using condoms. I was on the pill missed a few and I became pregnant. I grew up in the foster system, I was adopted at one point. I was bounced around. I was physically, mentally, verbally abused. I was raped and molested at 13. I know how the system works and I would never want my child to go through what I went through. So I decided to keep my daughter and do the opposite of what I was taught and learned. I mean my husband was honorably discharged from the military and I was 6 months pregnant and homeless. I decided to do everything I had to before my daughter came to make sure she had a place to call her own. My husband worked his ass off. Now I'm 21 and my husband is 22 and we bought her a house that she celebrated her 2nd birthday in. I wouldn't change it for the world. Being a parent is hard and stressful but she is the reason why I get up and keep fighting.

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reevespartyof5

I got pregnant at 20, my now husband was 23. We were living with my husbands father while we got our finances together to get our own place again. When we found out we were pregnant it was a definite surprise and was unplanned. We always talked about children so for us it was no doubt in our mind of keeping the baby. That we would get a place, get our shit together and make it work for the 3 of us. An that’s exactly what we did. We got a place, my husband got a new job a really good one in fact with benefits. Now we are a happy family of 4, still struggling at times with my husbands hours being cut due to slow period but doing what we have to for our great boys.

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knockout

@akita_mommy, love hearing stories like this! GOD is amazing

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selena_lalu

@akita_mommy, Wow. How great that y’all took this little sign to better y’all selves. I hope for the best to your growing family. (:

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selena_lalu

@kambam, that’s awesome and totally understandable!

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kambam

I'd like to adopt but I'm done having kids. I'm almost 30 and need to work and secure his future.

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