Yeah I’d keep child support with him paying that amount and file if he stops. As for custody, I’d keep that going. That’s the most important one to address. I am being hypocritical, as I filed for child support 6 years ago and I’ve gotten it since, but my sons dad is absent. I haven’t filed for custody, as I’ve never seen him as a threat. He is not on my sons birth certificate so I don’t have to ask him for permission to leave the country or anything. @august.rae,

@kellyjc, I think once she got a little older it changed him? When she was a newborn she had BAD colic and screamed literally all day and all night. I’m in no way making excuses but I’m guessing that’s why? Idk anymore lol

I'm glad he is spending time with her sometimes men just are asshole's And they don't realize what they're missing

@august.rae, k then I wouldn’t worry about child support at this time unless he stops giving u money

Honestly I wouldn’t touch the support issue. If you’re going for default custody it’ll show that he is stepping up and they may stop and think about it. If he’s paying you, leave it alone until he doesn’t. Then the courts can sort it out.

@crai, how does that work

@crai, and I know, it would cause huge family issues if I did rat his business out

@crai, yes he actually wrote me a letter stating he gives me $500 in cash a month and signed it. Since then we’ve added the $250 so I will be having him hand write me a new one tonight. Thanks ladies y’all are the best

I’d lay low on the support then as long as he’s paying.

@crai, yes he’s a grower at my uncles grow. My uncles grow is also illegal, so I’m stuck between getting less because they can’t prove his job, or risking my uncles business.

@ss3mom, I wanna file for child support but I’m sooo nervous they won’t be able to prove he gets paid under the table. He’s been giving it to me every 2 weeks on he dot. He pays me $500 a month for just her and $250 to my mom to Baby sit her while I work.

I will definitely file cause he’s been so unreliable our whole relationship so I better be safe than sorry! Thanks ladies

I’m I’m Cali and if I do file for default that means I will go to court by myself for full sole and physical custody. He is not even involved in the court date. It’s up to the judge. The clerk told me ‘if everything goes smooth during court, you’ll be granted full custody’

Also get child support

I agree with the others. Who knows how he going to be in a week or two?!? Ya know? Better be safe then sorry. I’m very happy to hear he’s stepping up and I really do hope that he continues to do so. He’s her dad that’s his job!!