So idk if I’m an asshole for thinking this but a girl I used to go to school with is having her 3rd kid and she’s planning a baby shower and she had one with her other two. I feel like a baby shower is something you do with ur first pregnancy. I live far from my family so I didn’t have one but i did have a baby registry and I’m not even doing that with this pregnancy. Idk I just feel like 3 baby showers is a lot! Especially when she gets things handed to her. Idk maybe I’m an ass for thinking that
I’ve posted about my defiant toddler many times before but I’m really at a loss now. She deliberately disobeys. Like, she knows what “no” means and if she’s doing something she knows she’s not supposed to I can ask “do you want to go in timeout?” And she’ll answer “no” and SOMETIMES stop.. I can’t take her anywhere cause she refuses to listen. She runs wild, screams, throws tantrums etc. At home she’s just as bad and absolutely nothing I do or say helps. Timeout doesn’t work, hand poppings don’t work, a pop on the butt doesn’t work, I’ve tried getting down to her level and calmly explaining things or trying to make sure she knows that I understand her emotions and things like that but I’m not even kidding when I say nothing works with her. I’m constantly telling her no and even though she knows she’s going to get into trouble she will do it anyways and then cream this blood curdling scream when she does get in trouble. I’ve raided Pinterest for days, write everything down, tried everything I found... idk what else to do. Everyone keeps telling me it’s “terrible twos” or “she’s just strong willed” or that it’s normal for her age and all of that might be true but there’s gotta be some kind of something that will help me teach her to listen to me and such.
So I don’t think I will keep this pregnancy and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do
So My coworker does not get vaccinated for anything due to religious practices and she’s worried about our job making it mandatory since they discussed it earlier this week. It’s crazy how when vaccines even started or came about we were told it would be voluntary but now it’s mandatory and people need a verification card to go certain places. We even have certain states doing lottery drawings just to make people get it. people shouldn’t fear losing their jobs or having to go against their religious beliefs when we were told it was voluntary. I think this is wrong that companies are doing this.
need suggestions.... So at work we have a drink thief. Any time we put a drink in the fridge it disappears. I swear I know who it is. So far he's taken drinks from everyone that works in the office, we even put a sign to not take anything you didn't pay for and wrote our names on the drinks. The person I think is taking them works out of the office so we never get to see who is drinking them.
Nancy·
Remember to get down on her level, make eye contact, and explain the situation. Have a calm place to take her when she’s throwing a tantrum. For example, when she starts throwing a fit, get down on her level and say, “I know you’re really upset. I can tell because you are hitting and yelling. We do not hit and yell in our family. It’s time to go sit down on your bed and I will talk to you when you stop yelling and crying.” Sit her on her bed and give her time to sort herself out. Worked wonders for my son when he was 2-3. I’d only truly let him come back and talk it out when he was not crying or throwing a fit anymore. He’d come back apologizing for his actions.
Sorcha·
If you are concerned do talk to her doctor. Also I wanted to say "controlling your child" isn't the standard for good parenting. If you goal is to " control" you might need to evaluate what you're long term parenting goals are. Just saying.
If your goal is to raise a happy, healthy, responsible child then a different response is needed.
Depending on what cause the meltdown, will dictate the response. Also getting to know what your child needs or wants in a meltdown helps to defuse the crisis. They are melting down for a reason. Even if we don't know why. Sometimes they are tired, or hungry, or bored, or want something. I'm not advocating giving in to every little request but if you know why you can help.
My son has tantrums too. If he is melting down because I said no to something. I just wait, calmly, and if need be keep him safe. I wait. Then when it's calmer I ask him how he feels now, I remind him what he can do when he is mad, or sad. There are a few kids programs that also talk about feelings and what to do. Sometimes my son needs a hug, other times he wants space. It's all about teaching what your long term goal is. Mine is for my child to learn to express himself in a more positive and clear way.
Aubrey Wood·
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Thank you very much. I actually love the idea of going to the bathroom when she gets out of control. & I will defiantly use the “I can’t hear you when you are that loud” lol thank you very much
Yo mama·
When my kids throw tantrums. My daughter the most I tell her I can’t hear her when she acts like that. I ignore her which she hates. She will calm down after a few mins n then I talk to her. Trying to rationalize with an angry toddler is like talking to a wall. It’s just not going to work. I find my kids throw more fits if they are tired or hungry so I avoid going places if I can if I know they haven’t napped or eaten recently. And if anybody every says anything to you about controlling your child ask them if they want to give it a try. The only people who actually think you can’t control your child are people who have never had kids. Us parents a understand that sometimes they are just crazy little monsters. Also if my kids get wild when we are out and about I will take them the the bathroom. I find that if there are little to no people around it’s less distractions and they calm down faster then we go back out and finish whatever we were doing. You are doing a great job. Just know between 2-4 are the trying years. After that it’s pretty much smooth sailing until 10 when they become preteens and it’s like they are two all over again. You are doing wonderful mama. Keep your head up. This too shall pass!!!