I absolutely was not prepared for terrible twos. My daughter isn’t like other children I have been around, so I don’t have much to compare her actions to. She is a beautiful little girl who we have a lot of fun with, but she’s also throwing huge tantrums, throwing herself on the floor, hitting me, banging her head on the wall when she’s mad, balling her fists up and shaking her whole body, and many more things. I know terrible twos are normal, but I somehow feel like I’m doing something wrong when this happens. I don’t know how to help her anymore, I have tried everything from talking calmly to her to trying to hold her until she’s done but it just makes it worse. Sometimes it is for a reason and other times it is for no reason at all. I’m just unsure what I’m doing wrong as a first time mom of a two year old.
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You are definitely not alone. The best thing is to ignore the behavior! It’s really hard sometimes especially when they follow you around and continue to do it, but they are looking for the attention. The minute they realize that behavior doesn’t get them anywhere it stops. I told my friend this and she didn’t take the advice and now she her son got kicked out of preschool for throwing a fit and hitting the teacher. It’s rough for a few days but it will pass and you will be great full you did it!
@barefootmom, I’m defiantly going to work on always staying calm, it’s the screaming for 20 minutes that makes me not be so calm lol. But I just need to walk away and not talk to her. Maybe it will end sooner
Sometimes I did ignore him if it was something small but if it was something more serious that he did or pushing his baby brother down (baby just started standing up by furniture) or biting him, etc., he would go time out. I used to yell at him sometimes before and that just escalated the behavior and made both of us even more mad so definitely stay calm, i know its hard! Good luck!
Nothing worked for my son until I stopped giving in since it seemed easier to do that but instead I started putting him in time out and leaving him there until his tantrum was over and that has seemed to work pretty well
You are not alone I am going through this too. I was blaming myself every day for being a bad parent. Are you doing time out with her? I warn him I’m going to put him in time out with no toys if he doesn’t stop the behavior then if he does it again I take him to the “one corner in the house we dedicated to timeout” he faces the wall and has to stand there while I sit not far away from him but not too close and talk about what he’s done. Sometimes it’s a fight but he’s gotten used to it now and I don’t always have to sit by him he goes stands and later comes and says “sorry mama” and give me kiss
@santistevanmommie, ignoring is definitely what I’m going to try to be better at! Sounds like it’s the best way
Don’t feel defeated mama! It’s the age. They have so many new emotions to explore and things they want to do and sometimes it’s frustrating to them to not be able to communicate the way they’d like.
My daughter used to throw tantrums like that. I just ignored it. Told her that’s not how to get mommies attention.
You aren't doing anything wrong. Everyone processes anger and frustration differently and you will learn the best way. Two and three are difficult ages in the sense that they start having all these things they want to do, but don't actually have the coordination or independence to do, and it makes them very angry. You will learn to ride out yhe storms and it will get better as they adjust to it! :)
Sometimes you just have to walk away. With some kids it's the only way they understand that they need to talk instead of scream.
@barefootmom, I thought about starting it soon. She officially turns two in a month but I’m worried she won’t stay where I tell her to for “time out”. I’m worried it will turn into a me having to force her to sit screaming ordeal so I haven’t tried yet. Did he try to get up when you first started it?