Ugh. His doubts are in the way. Do i talk to him about baby? Move out? Move out the bedroom. Keep…
Ugh. His doubts are in the way.
Do i talk to him about baby? Move out? Move out the bedroom. Keep sleeping next to him even though he thinks someone else knocked me up?
I want to enjoy my pregnancy. Its 900 for prenatal dna and I'm seriously considering it. I want us to experience all this together. I feel like when he does come around im going to resent him.
sm;)e·
Why does he think the baby isn’t his?
Jess🌹♥️·
honestly, if my man doubted me i'd be hurt and wouldn't want him around.. but he has NO reason to not trust me, no reason to doubt me, id be really hurt, and i would be like if you're so unsure, you can pay that 900. otherwise i'm gonna do me, and enjoy this pregnancy. otherwise walgreens dna kits are like 50 and he can wait til the baby is born, then feel like this shit when it comes out looking like him and being his 🤷🏽♀️
Melissa ·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (8 нед.)
Bc his doctor told him he had low motility years ago. He and his ex experienced several losses so i guess he's under the impression his sperm can't produce a viable pregnancy.
I'm wanting to leave him over this.
wafflespancakes·
He either trusts you or he doesn't. There's no way I could put up with 9mos of my partner looking at me side-eyed, especially if I'd given him no reason to question me.
MoT·
@mhbbb2 it has to be hard to be on the other side of things. My friend told me that after having a large portion of her cervix removed they told her she would never get pregnant and that if she did she would never be able to carry it to term. So after a one night stand when she started feeling sick she thought it was cancer and it turned out she was pregnant. She said she couldn't accept it or believe it and the whole pregnancy she was in denial. Partly because of fear of lose and partly because the Dr's had insisted that it would never happen after surgery. She said she didn't prepare in anywat and even through contractions she had issues accepting it. Perhaps all those losses are messing with him the way it was with her. Maybe it has nothing to do with trusting you? It might be a defense mechanism.
sm;)e·
That’s a terrible excuse to believe you can’t make kids. Wth?! I would be pissed!
Melissa ·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (8 нед.)
@mct
I get that and I'm trying hard to be understanding. I think deep down he knows. I think he's probable scared of another loss.
Were doing a prenatal dna test asap. I am NOT dealing with this fir 9 mos.
These last couple days ive been considering just leaving him.
MoT·
@mhbbb2 if you love him and you think it is the loss history keep hanging on. It sounds so hard and frustrating but being alone isn't easy either. We can never control how people react and we can never make someone feel a certain way. However, if the things they respond with hurt us then we have to protect ourselves. If this is hurting you, tell him. If he can't at least respect you the way you deserve then tell him you need a break. You want to celebrate the baby and when he is ready to do that with you he is always welcome to come back. Maybe that will give him a reality check.