Yelling

Ryder got yelled at this morning like he has never been yelled at before. DH and I have occasionally yelled when we were exhausted or lost patience and it always tears us apart. Well today we were at my parents house and I was in the bathroom and my dad lost it on Ryder. I came upstairs to my dad yelling at him to sit in that chair or he would be sitting in a room all day and Ryder crying. I had no idea how to deal with it. I went ahead and sat with Ryder and we talked for about 15min. About the entire thing and I made him apologize to my dad. Now my dad has barely talked to us, I know he is feeling really bad but now I'm not sure how to do it. After 3.5 years this is yhd first time he has ever yelled at my kids. If anything it has definitely changed my views on my parenting again, and I now will try even harder to not yell at my kids. I was raised like that and it brought back so many memories... even my mom cried a little bit from it.