Just need to get it off my chest
My baby's grandmother is always mentioning how I should give her formula and it is really getting annoying. We told her how much weight she gained and she said, "Oh goodness, you might need to give her some formula because when it's time for her to walk she'll be too fat." Then when her son told her the baby was constipated she text me saying, "You might need to stop giving her that breast milk and give her some formula." I don't know why she thinks breastfeeding is something wrong.
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Yep, our poor older generations had it drilled into them that breastmilk was for poor women who couldn't afford the far superior product that was formula (you can't make money from breastmilk but you sure can from formula). Breastfeeding was looked down on but thank goodness today we know how amazing it is! I've just gotten good at deflecting and sterting thr conversation 'have you eaten anywhere lately that you would reccomend we take the baby?... what foods would you reccomend we try when we start solids?...' and so on. Oh yeah, and the oldies are obsessed with wanting to give the baby water. The baby does not need water, thank you very much.
Smh. I would simply say that I refuse to give my baby some powder made in a lab the same way i refuse to eat processed food. Straight from the tap the way nature intended, antibodies and all? that way she can get all the nutrition I eat from my diet that consists of 100% whole plant fooods(; there is no way some powder can top that.
My brother (who has a one year old formula fed daughter) is always trying to tell my sister she should give her 3 week old formula in addition to the breastmilk. ?
He suggested it today to "get his strength up" because the baby was too sleepy after his nice warm bath to eat. Baby's been eating well and my sister has no problems with producing enough breastmilk so I don't know why my brother keeps trying to push formula. The only reason I can think of is because it's all he knows? My sil wasn't able to breastfeed.
It sucks but unfortunately generational. They literally had doctors, advertisers, society in general pounding in the message that breastfeeding was "dirty" or cheap or undignified and that lab created formulas were superior chemical compounds that babies needed. Or as my grandmother said "it's for gypsies" ? I give up trying to convince them, just stay firm and let them know times and research has changed and this has proven to be the best for baby.
I ff. Dd would never latched. But I do know formula can be more constipating than breast milk. (Most of the time). If you're Hilo is having constipation issues I would suggest infant powder probiotics. You can get them on amazon. Also I know sprouts sells some. They did wonders. Dd has always had issues and we ended up getting a prescription for her too. It's called lactulose.
Anyway...just do what you're doing. I'm sorry about your grandmother. My Grammy is so pushy about things she did 50 years ago with her kids and turned out just fine. Smh.
My grandma asked if they made a "light formula" because he ate too much and she didn't want him getting fat, he wasn't even a very chunky baby. Breastfeeding was looked down on though when our parents were born, and that thought passed down to a lot of our parents. Hopefully by the time our kids have kids it's just the norm.
lol I completely don't mind the rant on my rant. And thanks ladies, I'm glad to know I'm not the only one. My baby is almost 7 weeks old, and the first few weeks were so painful I wanted to quit everyday. I stuck it out and now I can enjoy feeding my LO. There's no stopping me now lol.
The older generation could have been strongly influenced by the belief formula is as good if not superior than breast milk, courtesy of aggressive advertising of formula makers, which lead to a decline in breast feeding up to late 1970s and early 1980s. They can't change their mind set now.
Luckily mums these days like yourself are more aware of the benefits of breastfeeding and are supported better in terms of getting breastfeeding right from the start.
Great work, you are doing the best for your bub!
Omgggg my mom tries to push formula on me for my baby too.
"It's just as healthy"
"It'll help her poop more" (the pediatrician said it's common for breastfed babies not to poop as much as formula fed babies don't worry I already asked to make sure)
"Other people want to bond with her by feeding her too"
"How do you know she's getting enough milk" (maybe because she's gaining weight like she's supposed to?)
Shaming moms for breastfeeding is just as wrong as shaming formula feeding moms. As long as the baby is healthy and fed other people need to butt out. It's one thing to encourage a mom to feed a certain way but it's another to shame them and make them feel like they're not raising their kids right or neglecting them.
Sorry I totally ranted on your rant. ?
I would honestly try and educate her on breastmilk. Remind her that you can't overfeed a breastfed baby and breastmilk acts more like a laxative than clogging a baby up.