My husband makes me feel so worthless... he calls me names. Makes me second think things. what sucks is that now it’s to the point where he’s talking about divorce. I can’t stop crying. He’s going to try and take my baby from me.
Everyone’s right. Make sure you text or email. That way you’ll have proof of the way he talks to you. Don’t instigate it though. If I were you. Go stay with family. Do you feel scared around him? Like he might harass you if you leave. You might be able to get a protection order thing. Also I doubt he can take the baby from you unless you’re truly unfit.
Start documenting everything if you haven't already. Seek free legal consults. All men threaten to take the kids away- unless there's a reason to prove your unfit, you don't have to worry about that. Good luck. ❤️
I agree with what everyone has said regarding advice. Get yourself out of that abusive relationship and file for divorce and custody.
You are definitely not worthless, you have a baby who you are the absolute world too. The first while after having a baby are difficult but your husband should be supporting you not putting you down. The problem is definitely his not yours.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. You don't deserve to be treated this way. Caring for a newborn is hard enough. Mims gave great advice, but I just wanted to lend you some more support. ♥
@heather_juraskovich90, what would she need to look on google for?
Maybe a lawyer?
In most states it's unlikely that a man gets custody of his kids unless their mother is bad and I mean baaaddd. You need to take preemptive measures to ensure things go in your favor. You know you and your baby deserve more. If you have family or a friend you can stay with, then don't tell him, just pack up yourself and the baby and go and file for divorce on the way. You're stronger than you think but you won't see it till you use it.
Separating yourself and your child from an abusive relationship is a good idea. Save any proof you have to his mental abuse. Do not say, text, email, anything that can be used against you. Contact reliable person your parents or best friend let them know what's going on incase of an emergency or you just need a place to stay. Do not contact his family because deep down they will always chose him and anything you say will be told back to him. If you do leave. Do not have any contact except where it comes to your child. If you are breastfeeding you have no worries about him trying to take the baby. Shared custody can be put in order but his will be short visits. You only need to worry if you are an unfit parent and he can prove that. Just stay calm and seek help.
I agree with @messybunmom. Divorce seems like it would benefit you. He has become mentally abusive and part of your fear that he will actually be able to take your child comes from the way he is wearing you down mentally. I don't see a judge granting custody to him unless he can prove you unfit. At this point go into protection mode. Try to have all communication in text or email and save them. Don't write or send anything you don't want used against you. Try to stay calm and resonable. If you can leave do so and get away from the mental abuse. Look up domestic violence hotlines and ask for help. I'm sorry you are going through this.
Unless you're mentally ill, on drugs, or doing illegal activity, he cannot take your child away.
Seek free legal aid in your area asap and I suggest you file the divorce before he does. Document any abuse that you can but without putting yourself and most importantly your baby at risk of physical violence. Most abusers start with verbal abuse until that no longer satisfies their release of anger.
You're worth more then him that's for sure. He's not a real man. He doesn't love you. Someone who truly loves you won't treat the women who have him a child like crap.
File divorce and document all the abuse you can. You can file for child support and mybe even alimony and the judge would Grant you it in a heartbeat.
I'd file for full custody and allow supervised visits if he's that abusive until he can prove he's deserving of being in your child life.
If you need help message me. If you're in the U.S I can help you.
If there's one thing I hate is abusive men. So I can gladly connect you with the recourses and so they can show you all the options you have.
Good luck ❤❤❤