So yesterday I got on messenger. Me and my husband have a joint account. I saw that he had logged in…

I am so sorry you’re going through this ma 💔💔

As sad as it sounds he has probably been doing it for a long time and won’t change. Stay strong girl. My ex was the same way and I gave him two other chances and all he ended up doing was cheating on me plus abusing me and my kids. I left after that.

@mom2bei I just hate how no matter how innocent they look they're all jerks...

I hate he did that too you, & your absolutely right just because he didn’t go see those other women, doesn’t make it any better he still betrayed your trust. Don’t play get back though, two wrongs never make a right. Pray about it, let God lead you and your marriage. Then when you get home, make your demands... he will listen.

You’re right the hate and loss of trust you feel will always be there, follow your heart and think of your unborn baby.

@blessedwithnumber4 yea girl he's been doing it since last year :(

Oh hell 🤬 you deserve better and way more respect than that that’s just plain disgusting so sorry your going through this it’s just not okay no matter if he met up with them or not

@maya......, I’m sorry but I’m here for you, if you need to talk. I’ve been through it all. I even separated from my ex without any income because I couldn’t do it anymore.

@maya......, most of them are its so sad. Like weres the 1% that we can trust???

That’s how my sons father was. Until this day the girl he did it win apologizes to me. It gets better.

@eutley21 but how do I make him respect me? I never once cheated on him so why whyyyy would he?? I ask him this and he literally doesn't say anything. Just says it won't happen again.

@maya......, he can’t expect for you to just take his word for it. He has to prove hisself to you. Make him delete that other messenger. He will have to be over the top with telling you where he is for a while, he’ll have to make grand gestures, becaus ejjst because he didn’t cheat doesn’t mean he didn’t hurt you, as far as making him respect you... that’s a hard one, because once you’ve been in a relationship for a while and your partner has been guilty of hurting you in the past each time you take them back it becomes easier and easier for them to do it again because in their head men are like “ahh she’ll be mad for a while then get over it”. I’ll never suggest you leave your relationship but honestly that’s the only way MOST men will change and go back to respecting their woman once they believe we will actually leave and we actually do it for a while.

@maya......, I hate to break it to you, but he doesn’t respect you and there’s no way you can make him. If he respected you he wouldn’t have stepped outside the trust of the relationship in the first place. And no you didn’t overreact, I would have kicked my husband in the face and thrown his shit in a fire if I found out he betrayed me

Whyyyyy do men talk to women behind their girls back??? The rush of talking to someone new is temporary and he will eventually get tired of the other girls unless they become a challenge and like an idiot he will get a rush from the chase. You have done nothing wrong some people just don't know what they have!

Thank you all ladies for your advice

. If he does this shit again I'm done . I don't need this stress in my life. I rather be forever alone than wondering all the time if I'm being cheated on. I went through this with my ex and to have to go though it again is getting silly.

@maya......, you need to leave if he was doing it chances are he’s been for a while you didn’t overreact my ex did that and I was young without kids I literally beat his ass and got arrested lol but it’s not worth u feeling like your not good enough I promise you will be better without him sadly your about to have a kid but that’s his fault

He doesn't deserve you!! You're beautiful and the mother of his children and if he wants to talk to other women i would tell him to kick rocks and divorce him and sue his ass for child support.

That’s fucked. My boyfriend did the same shit except we didn’t have joint accounts. We were separate. But I managed to log into his Facebook and his snap chat and seen naked pictures of other females, them talking about sex, meeting up, having her over when I would leave. All this stuff. When I was pregnant with his child. He tho, has managed to change and we don’t Facebook or snap chat anymore because of it. This is the only “social media” I have and he has nothing. But it sucks having that happen. Most likely he won’t change, they rarely do. Good luck hun. ❤️ stay strong.

@wvgirl yes you're right girl. I try to be the best wife and mother and I'm obviously not appreciated.

@maya...... I'm serious girl you need to tell him to leave, he will continue to do it. He's already been doing it behind your back for a year.

that's so messed up! I'm sorry girl

I’m sorry 😐 he deserves the yelling

My ex did the same thing when I was pregnant I stuck around for 2 years and it never changed but I wanted to make it work for my son. Wasn’t worth my son seeing me so unhappy and I was drained from having to spy on him constantly

Yeah not a healthy relationship at all.

Well yes all are the same and he does deserve a punishment just not one that would jeopardize y’all fixing it and making it right don’t act on anger act for relief if that’s makes any sense

It doesn't matter if he didn't go see them he still hid it from you, so in essence he was in the wrong, my first baby's dad did the same stuff I caught him asking for nudes from another girl and when I got mad and upset he said she lives in another state it's not like I'm gonna do anything, I gave him another chance and he cheated so I left

@natcasey9 yea my husband was also asking for pics. Ugh men don't know how to appreciate what's in front of them . Smh

@maya...... no they don't and trust they do regret it

@natcasey9 if he does this again I'm so done. I will leave . I'm not going to be taking his crap

I disagree with some of the women on here saying he won't change. If he wants to make a change he will. My husband did. I think the reason men (or women) who cheat continue to cheat is because their partner expects them to meet their demans and prove something to them and put in all the work. Truth is it takes 2 to build and to keep a relationship. There's a reason he did what he did. Discuss it with him openly. Hear him out in a none agressive way. When he's done, speak your peace. Let him know you are hurt and the damage he's caused and then work together to not only ensure it won't happen again but to build back up your relationship until it's in a healthy spot again. All that being said there's definitely people who won't change but that's on them.

Omg I know u just had your baby and congrats, but this is what just happened to me last week & on messenger too;( I also swore he would never do this. At first he kept telling me it was his cousin (they're in Mexico) so I thought I was over reacting but nope....turns out he was being a piece of shit. I'm gonna have my baby in a few more weeks and i've been sooooo depressed. I don't even feel like going through with the baby shower in a couple weeks 😭 if u get a chance please message me when u get a chance😕😕