How do you keep intimacy in a relationship when you have a child or children? Like me and my…
How do you keep intimacy in a relationship when you have a child or children? Like me and my boyfriend don't hold hands anymore, if we cuddle its almost always me cuddling him, I mean we have sex but its not the use as sitting together and holding hands or curlin up as a family, us and our daughter sitting on the couch cuddling? How do we get that type of intimacy back
Shannon Mallory·
Communicate, communicate, communicate, tell him how you feel, but in a way that isn't naggy, and ask him if you plan some family type stuff would he be willing to participate, and really engage in it? Tell him you love him, and have been missing that with him terribly. Also if you have someone who could baby sit for you for a Lil bit, you two could spend some quality time that way too. Communication is key, and not giving up. You both have to want to keep the relationship and love alive!
Victoria ·
Effort. One of the greatest realizations I made after having kids was that the little things matter. Things like holding hands, random hugs, saying “I love you”, “please”, and “thank you” all add up and cause feelings of abandonment and being unloved. Once we realized what was happening and talked about, we put more effort into our relationship. He’ll randomly bring home flowers, I’ll cook his favorite dinner or dessert. When the kids are busy, I’ll curl up beside him on the couch and tell him that I love him. We always make time for intimacy, no matter how “tired” we are at the end of the day. You’ve both got to be willing to put in a little extra effort in nurturing your relationship.