Update! We're going to Hawaii, MIL free, for 2 weeks!!!!!

Yayyyyyy!

Oh my ; u need to sit her down asap and tell her she needs to back off thay yall are moving and u would like her out of the house By this weekend bc u have to prepare for the house to go up , and no she will NOT BE going with yall on yalls family trip bc it's a time for you and ur family .

I'm a super strait forward person and would have just said "no I'm sure we'll be fine"

You should take your MIL to a soccer game. You know, to show her what the hell boundaries are, because she clearly doesn't know about them.

Oh yeah, I'm not letting her push stuff back anymore. We have plans and she has opinions. Her opinions aren't going to affect my plans anymore! The other night she just kept talking about how us moving is the worst decision we will ever make and so on... I just told her that was fine if she felt that way but it was OUR decision to make, not hers. I appreciated her concern but I refuse to make decisions that will affect my family and our happiness based on fear of the unknown, which is how she has chosen to live her entire life!

I agree with pp, go ahead with your plans to put the house on the market, she can work around them. You shouldn't have to work around her, that's self-centered and impractical

We have a meeting with him on Thursday evening. I was hoping they would be gone by now so I didn't have to hear from the peanut gallery! But maybe this will show her that we mean business and we are outta here!

Tell her that they need to be out in two weeks so you can start preparations to put the house on the market! If she tries to change your mind tell her it's already made up and that you'll be giving a real estate agent a call soon(I don't know if you plan to use one but it might make it more realistic in her mind). I hope they get out soon in hopes for your sanity! Definitely sounds like you need a vacation!

I understand but she needs an exit date before you start clashing! Like I said, can you suddenly need the house fumigated or reno'd?

@serenity - he isn't good at anything confrontational. He usually leaves that up to me, but I've been trying to keep the peace around here because I don't want my kids to feel/see it. Life is already crazy for them, I wouldn't want them to see any conflict between me and them and make my kids feel uncomfortable.

No more being nice. You need to let her know what it is and talk to your husband

@heatherleigh - all my coworkers say that! They all feel sorry for me but since we all work from home in multiple locations across the country, they can't take me out for much needed drinks!! ?

Lol Op, I'm starting to think you may have to get hubby to sit down and have a chat with her about the level of input she has in your life

I would have said "no" right then and there

Idk how you are still sane... You need to at least call a good producer and get a sitcom out of this! $$$... lol jk they gots to go!

Ummmmmm hell to the NOOOO! There is no way on this earth my MIL will be going with us to Hawaii ruining our beautiful vacation. The devil is a liar!

s*** would have hit the fan and been on the wall weeks ago! You are one strong woman. He has to have a clue. I bet he's playing oblivious to not rock the boat.

Well we were planning on putting the house on the market this month, but now we are pushing it back first weekend in June because of them! They don't care what our plans are. Even today she randomly said I needed to push the move back a year (she doesn't want us to move).

Op, if I were you I would suddenly come up with some 'urgent' renovation or similar that absolutely needs to take place and then put a date on it. That will give your in-laws an eviction date. For example- I'm having the house fumigated, all bedrooms need to be vacant in 2 weeks time

@mags - I honestly don't think so. Our fight this morning (in addition to creepy BIL), was because he didn't do or get me anything for Mother's Day. I wasn't expecting a gift but I was hoping he would take some time with the kids to make me something sentimental. I'm really big on stuff like that so he knows how much it would have meant.

This morning I was trying to explain to him why I was so upset and I said "out of all the mothers days, this should have been the one you went out of your way for! After all the s*** I've been putting up with, after all these people living here and me cooking and cleaning for 8 people, I would have thought you would have done something nice, but no!!"

I'm a cyber security engineer and I train the DoD on how to adequately secure their IT systems.

It's not fun, but the trips are! :-)

Yes, they were supposed to move out yesterday. Now it's not happening until this weekend. It's one excuse after the other with her and I'm SO tired of it.

I need to know what your job is? I think I choose the wrong career! lol

We went for a walk with the kids and I told him it wasn't happening. He said that we could use her military ID and get a good, cheaper hotel on the ocean if she went with us. I said I'd rather stay on the inside of the volcano. Haha!

I just wanna know where you work haha!!

He must be crazy though! You guys need a break from her not a vacation with her!

That woman needs to gtfo of your house. Are they moving into the rental the insurance offered?

I'd cancel also if he says that she has to go.

What a great experience for you all and yet he won't stop listening to his mummy ?

Does he not know anything !?

I would have immediately said no thank you

Honestly, if I wasn't nursing my 7 month old, I would go by myself at this point. I need to get away from all these crazies, DH included!!

Dead.man.walking.

First off, I want your job. Second, your husband is trippin'! I'm sure he probably just thought yeah great babysitter, but seriously.

I would have shot daggers with my eyes at my husband

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