I said they all needed to go. We need things to go back to normal around here. I did talk about the recordings and also how my BIL (his rudeness, attitude, and cursing) is setting such a bad example for my kids, he has to go. I also told MIL that BIL is the way he is because her and my husband enable him and allow him to be that way. She agreed but she tries to go about everything with him all wrong. I told her she just needs to kick him out of her house, make him grow up, and either learn to respect his family members or be out of all of our lives.

All in all, it went well. Thank goodness!

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Yay! You get your house back!!!

Yay! That's great news. So how did the talk with MIL go? Was it amicable? Or did she get all butt hurt? Does she even understand that she's putting you under a lot of unecessary stress?

Edit: did you tell MIL you wanted BIL out of the house? Or all of them?

Following..hoping for your sake that it's innocent and you don't have a creep living in your house!

No, it seems like he's avoiding us. He hasn't been around and he works nights so he won't be home until 2 or 3 am. Hopefully tomorrow!

I did have a long talk with my MIL about it though. I told her I wanted him out of my house. Apparently they are all leaving on Saturday!

Maybe he was doing so he can put together a nice video for you, I wouldn't think its weird if a family member recorded my family. If he were a stranger at the park then I could see being suspicious. Maybe he got defensive because of the way you confronted him.

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I have a cousin like yours OP! He's a little younger, but he's crazy about dragon ball z, and Pokemon. There was a huge family fight because he tried to make my 15 year old sister watch a super in appropriate movie with "just him" in his room. He records everyone, but mainly the children. And his mom says it's because he's not mentally right. ?? I'd watch him closely. Not trying to frighten you, but seriously be on guard!

This would freak me out.

I wanna know what he says

Creepy s*** ! Just kick him out!

Creeepppyy

Gosh that just gives me the creeps! I hope you figure it out op.

He does sound creepy! You need to find him a 40 year old that has a huge Lego and action figure collection so they can live together in creepy weirdness and leave your family alone! :)

Hahaha! I know! He's soooooo weird!!!

@sailorvenus, well that answers your question. What sort of man still lives with his parents at age 40? The type who still plays with Lego and transformers ???

My kids love him. My son idolizes him unfortunately because he had 500 Legos and transformers. (Well, he did until they all burnt up).

My son is 8 and knows to tell us those things. I don't know how to ask him without being insinuating. I guess I could just be vague about it.

That's just creepy ! If it where a big party and everyone was being hilarious then why not? To have memories.

@paisley, I thought the exact same thing. What sort of weirdo lives with his mummy when he's pushing 40 anyway. I'd be saying GTFO of my house

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Wow that's a bit suspicious. I would have reminded him who's house he's living in.

Woah.. All i see are HUGE RED FLAGS i don't want to sound dramatic or anything but 90% of children who are sexually abused are abused by family member or someone they trust.. I'm not at all accusing him of such horrific things but i definitely see red flags, especially since he wanted to share a room with your kids. You should talk to your kids honestly, ask them of he makes them uncomfortable. I'm sorry you're going through this op, this is definitely creepy. I don't blame you for being freaked.

I have a weird colleague who does that. Creepy!

Welp, he didn't talk to him and BILs already left for work. Ugh! I am not happy. It looks like this mama bear will be handling some business tomorrow. ?

BIL didn't insist on bunking with my son - my DH and MIL were the ones who thought it would be a good idea back when they first moved in.

I said hell no, not even an option!

I am waiting for my husband to come home and tell me if he talked to him.

DH got in a fight about it this morning and I'm hoping he heard us arguing!

Creepy!!!! Any update ?!

A man that is 39 years old and still living with his mom, who INSISTS he bunk with a 8 year old is an ABSOLUTE HELL NO. Red flags every which way. I just get a disturbing feeling about all of it and I would make him show me or get out of my house. Creepy. Beyond creepy.

I am curious as to what happens.

Lololol. Nope. I would be so mad and creeper out.

Let us know what his explanation is. Those are YOUR children you have every right in the world to know why he was recording them and he needs to delete it. He sounds kind of creepy and I usually don't judge anybody but this is weird.

I didn't think it was that weird...

Until you said he got defensive immediately and cursed and stormed off.

Then it was weird.

Super weird...like serial killer weird

Didn't he wanna share the room with your kids or something? He sounds very weird.

Strange..

He didn't come home before we went to bed so we weren't able to talk to him about it. Luckily, both DH and I work from home today so one of us is bound to see him.

Are you sure he's only playing games all day and night?

I trust no one. I think it's creepy as f*** that he records the kids and I would flip my s*** if anyone recorded my kids and it wasn't a birthday party or a special event. Even then it bugs me.

When are they leaving? I really hope your husband realizes what a saint you are!!

Could it be for snapchat maybe? Its a bit weird given his reaction when you asked him about it, but my brother is always taking stupid little videos and photos of pointless stuff and sending them to his friends on snapchat or adding them to his story. My brother also has this app where u can edit the video and change what the person is actually sayong. He always does it to me and my mum lol.

Edit- my brothers 16 not a grown adult like your bil.

That is strange. I would be a little creeped out. I'd wanna know why he was recording my children because mommy doesn't play when it comes to her babies ?

Damn...I'm a bb failure tonight!! Lol I just went back and read more comments where you already asked him you could see them...

Yeeaa!!! Definitely weird. Tell his butt to leave.

Oh darn it. Why did I read that wrong? Haha. Then maybe a little weird. Can you ask him to show you what he does with everything he records? Maybe Try to friend him on snap chat and Facebook etc to see if he's posting it?

Whoah

What a weirdo

Pp- he doesn't have Aspergers.

So I definitely thought it was weird until I read your comment that he has asbergers.

My ds, 7, has asbergers and records EVERYthing. I swear he's going to make movies one day. Ds also has a tendency to blame others for everything he does. They truly have a hard time understanding social norms and what is appropriate and inappropriate. Makes me feel like maybe he's just being misunderstood?

I would find his phone and break it. I don't care if it was innocent or not. He had no right recording you our your children secretly without your permission.

No offense, but I've kept up with your posts about these Inlaws. I would honestly tell the BIL to gtfo!! ? ... I would be WAY to creeped out. If he is 39 years old doing that, who says he doesn't have other pictures and recordings as well!! ??

The first thing that came to mind was taking video for his snapchat story! Not saying it's okay, but it might not be as creepy as you may think.

Ewwww that's super weird to me. I'd be like peace out, don't let the door hit ya on the way. This whole thing just gave me the creeps. Lol

Is he snapchatting?

Super strange. Following to see what he says when you confront him.

Does he speak to someone your family is estranged to? Someone that would want to know your daily life?

His phone isn't new. But he is addicted to it. He plays games ALL day/night long and never puts the phone down.

He doesn't have Aspergers. He's just one of those people who blames everyone else for all the bad things in his life. He's rude, I don't even think we spoke more than 3 times the first few years my husband and I were married. He likes people he can walk over. People he can treat poorly and they just take it. People who enable him.

I never was one of those people so we never got along.

I think it's creepy!

Maybe he does this because he admires the life you all have. Possibly even wishes it were his life.

What's even weirder is that he denied it and got mad. I mean, why not just say yes if he was. Maybe he got a new phone and wanted to try the video function? That's something my husband does when he gets a new phone.

Does he have aspergers? Sounds like he could be socially awkward or impaired and developing an interest in regular family life. Hope it's nothing weird and you can talk about it.

That's weird to me. Like you said recording the kids being cute I wouldn't have thought twice about. I love recording my nephew being silly. But there's no need to record you or your husband.

I wasn't even rude when I confronted him. I just asked if he was recording us. He denied it and said he wasn't. Then started to curse at me. Then MIL chimed in and said "well show us then". That's when he stormed off.

I'd be freaked out too. I guess the kids being cute can be explained but there is absolutely no reason for him to record you. Your husband needs to tell him to stop.

He's just weird and a dick in general. I don't even like talking to him normally, but I'm not going to feel uncomfortable on my own home.

the grandpa thing I get cause my dad takes random pictures sometimes of us with my son

but he's not young and he has no life or job which makes a creepy...

edit. crappy job lol

I wouldn't like him recording my kids.

My grandfather does this. He's always taking pictures (especially when we roll out of bed). He just wants to keep memories, even the little things like making a salad. Suppose he gets Alzheimer's, he'll have all his videos to keep with him

I would be like....nope.

You can tell me why you're recording my family without my permission or knowledge.

Yeah I think that's weird. Maybe have your husband talk to him since its his brother. He might feel more comfortable talking to him about it.

But that is creepy.. I wouldnt like him recording my kids.