Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
Would you consider this cheating? What would you do I need advice from a neutral stand point. Genuine advice of what you would do. Ds had his tonsils out last night. For some reason my gut about dh was not good. At night I logged into his Snapchat and saw he was talking to an old friend who he had a thing with. Last thing I was able to see was him saying it was hard to not log into those pictures and she then said she couldn't answer the phone because she was with her husband. I texted dh and asked what pictures was it so hard for him to not look at and I guess he called her and they talked. And she supposedly came clean to me and said they would just talk and vent about what stresses them. Dh said the same thing and I guess the pictures were of them from a long time ago of them and other friends hanging out. Dh started crying saying he never meant anything that everything looked like the perfect crime but that there was nothing there. I have since kept my distance and told him to give me space. At the moment I don't want to see him. I believe what they said but I'm so hurt and I don't want to be the stupid person to believe everything.
Dd was hysterical when he left And it broke my heart. Her dad dropped her off tonight from his weekend and she wouldn't let go of him. He made no effort to help and I had no idea she was that strong. I had to peel her off him as she tried her best to hold on and she cried and screamed. He left and she just kept crying for him. Changed her diaper (he dropped her with it leaked through her pants) she was still crying for him. Tears streaming screaming DaDa over and over. I was crying too. I hate seeing her that upset. 5 - 10 min after he left when I was cuddling her and comforting her she finally stopped crying. It was probably 30 - 40 min after he dropped her off that she was finally normal and not clingy.
Science! My friend posted this on facebook last night and said her kids were asleep within minutes. It's a song that scientists created to help people fall asleep. I was skeptical but I thought what the hay, I'll try it out. I didn't bank on Dh falling asleep, but both him and lo were asleep by minute 2. And lo slept six straight hours. ?
deleted-user·
Maybe take him to court for child support that way you don't have to communicate as much
deleted-user·
Beating a dead horse but take him to court.
Whatheshell ·
We have child support established. It's $73 dollars a week ? I know I shouldn't complain but it's based off his income 5 years ago, from a job he doesn't have anymore. I was told my husbands income would count if I took him back for a modification and would probably end up with less child support. In our order it states any medical or school items were to be split 50/50
Whatheshell ·
Nancy- its quite sad. He tries to play it off to everyone like he is daddy of the year yet comes around when it's on his time. His facking motorcycle is more important to him then seeing his daughter. I wish he would have just left us alone.
deleted-user·
Your husbands income really shouldn't matter because it isn't his responsibility to support your daughter. I'm more than sure he does, but legally in the eyes of a court that doesn't matter. Try to call a lawyer for a free consultation. Take it from there. The guy sounds like a d-bag that just wants an excuse to not have to support his child when he knows you and your dh will
Whatheshell ·
I'll have to get a consult with a lawyer. I've given up on contacting him because it doesn't seem to make a difference
deleted-user·
Only your income and his income should matter.
deleted-user·
Doesn't go off your husband's income he's not your daughters dad
Whatheshell ·
"If you want to use the above-referenced “unjust or inappropriate” provision of the CSSA to reduce child support, you should know that the judge will not only look at your income, but your new spouse’s income as well. The CSSA states that judges can consider the “new child” argument only if the resources available to support this new child are less than the resources available to support the children of the prior relationship. In other words, if you and your new spouse’s combined income is equal to, or greater than, the combined income of you and your ex, you’re basically out of luck."
This is what I found online. It's all confusing to me.
deleted-user·
I wouldn't go from online. Just find a really good lawyer!! Good luck!!
deleted-user·
Where are you located? I can almost guarantee that your husbands income won't come into play when doing calculations for child support. Who is your current order through? If it's through the state you should be able to call them and just ask.
Whatheshell ·
It's through my local county. I'm in NY, not NYC.
deleted-user·
I'd take him to court and bring every bill you have he has to pay daycare? Clothing, medical, extra curricular too. And I wouldn't contact the Bastard again. Let him make the effort to arrange seeing the child and just cut all ties as much as possibles you can't make an a****** responsible for his kid but you can wipe your hands clean of someone who isn't interested in being a parent. I'm sure your husband is good to help you. Sometimes other ppl are willing to step in when the bio parents won't.