About to lose my s*** !!
About to lose my s*** !!
DD's dad coming back around last year has been nothing but a problem. He always finds a reason to argue with me over everything. I've been so nice and yet he still tries to argue. DD has a very bad prescription for glasses and she picked out some expensive frames. The total for her new glasses came to $225.00. DD's dad paid $160 and DH and I paid the rest. To make up for the extra money her dad spent I covered her daycare expenses the last 3 weeks (I only work 1 day a week) and paid for the laundry list of school supplies she needed. He was suppose to go school clothes shopping with us this weekend and all of a sudden couldn't afford it this week. He makes about as much as my DH has no other children and lives at his dads rent free so idk how he couldn't afford it. I asked him if he could afford it this weekend and he yelled at me for texting him while he is working. I still haven't heard from him and he hasn't asked to see DD. it's been a week and a half since he has seen her. We just spent $400 on new school clothes because she literally outgrew everything over the summer. Sorry for the long post. I'm just sick of her dad at this point.
deleted-user·
Maybe take him to court for child support that way you don't have to communicate as much
deleted-user·
Beating a dead horse but take him to court.
Whatheshell ·
We have child support established. It's $73 dollars a week ? I know I shouldn't complain but it's based off his income 5 years ago, from a job he doesn't have anymore. I was told my husbands income would count if I took him back for a modification and would probably end up with less child support. In our order it states any medical or school items were to be split 50/50
Whatheshell ·
Nancy- its quite sad. He tries to play it off to everyone like he is daddy of the year yet comes around when it's on his time. His facking motorcycle is more important to him then seeing his daughter. I wish he would have just left us alone.
deleted-user·
Your husbands income really shouldn't matter because it isn't his responsibility to support your daughter. I'm more than sure he does, but legally in the eyes of a court that doesn't matter. Try to call a lawyer for a free consultation. Take it from there. The guy sounds like a d-bag that just wants an excuse to not have to support his child when he knows you and your dh will
Whatheshell ·
I'll have to get a consult with a lawyer. I've given up on contacting him because it doesn't seem to make a difference
deleted-user·
Only your income and his income should matter.
deleted-user·
Doesn't go off your husband's income he's not your daughters dad
Whatheshell ·
"If you want to use the above-referenced “unjust or inappropriate” provision of the CSSA to reduce child support, you should know that the judge will not only look at your income, but your new spouse’s income as well. The CSSA states that judges can consider the “new child” argument only if the resources available to support this new child are less than the resources available to support the children of the prior relationship. In other words, if you and your new spouse’s combined income is equal to, or greater than, the combined income of you and your ex, you’re basically out of luck."
This is what I found online. It's all confusing to me.
deleted-user·
I wouldn't go from online. Just find a really good lawyer!! Good luck!!
deleted-user·
Where are you located? I can almost guarantee that your husbands income won't come into play when doing calculations for child support. Who is your current order through? If it's through the state you should be able to call them and just ask.
Whatheshell ·
It's through my local county. I'm in NY, not NYC.
deleted-user·
I'd take him to court and bring every bill you have he has to pay daycare? Clothing, medical, extra curricular too. And I wouldn't contact the Bastard again. Let him make the effort to arrange seeing the child and just cut all ties as much as possibles you can't make an a****** responsible for his kid but you can wipe your hands clean of someone who isn't interested in being a parent. I'm sure your husband is good to help you. Sometimes other ppl are willing to step in when the bio parents won't.