No mom I will not! Parents with stupid suggestions
No mom I will not! Parents with stupid suggestions
My lovely mother whose youngest child is 24 years old (that would be me) suggested I give my 2 month old son who has health problems (diagnosed with hirschbrung's disease at 2 days old) rice cereal to help fill him up more so he will sleep better. DS can get constipated very easily because of this disease and will need to watch what he eats. Her reasoning is she did it with us kids and we are fine. Then I told her about open gut and future health problems that could happen in adulthood and she says "well I don't believe that's true." K lady have another child if you want things done your way. ? I guess at least she didn't suggest it be in a bottle and to use a spoon but he can't even sit up on his own. Genius idea mother ?
deleted-user·
Maybe you should gently provide her with some literature on the latest medical updates for feeding infants and newborns. It's not her job to research this stuff, it's her job to give you love and support, as well as words of wisdom....even if they're no longer accurate. You sound seriously bratty and rude. I'd check your attitude towards your mom.
deleted-user·
I'd show her information on all these things. A lot of people just don't know any better. Especially if they haven't had a baby in 24 years. Things have changed big time.
Whatheshell ·
I should have added. I did show her information from the AAP. She still didn't care for my answer. She also brought up putting DS in a snow suit in his car seat and after I showed her info on why it's dangerous she says the same thing, we did it with you kids and your fine. She is pushy when it comes to trying to tell my sister and myself how to parent.
deleted-user·
At this point, I wound just say "ok" when she offers her advice. Then do what I want anyway.
Whatheshell ·
I try to. And I understand 24 years is a long time. It's gotten to the point where my dad tells her to knock it off because I'm going to parent how I want to. Then my mom batches about how my grandma told her how to be a mom ?
deleted-user·
I think sometimes it feels like a personal attack when we contradict our moms. After all, they raised us and we all made it to adulthood. Just accept her advice with a smile and then follow the correct recommendations. Whether it's wrong or right, her advice is coming from a place of love and concern, don't strain your relationship unnecessarily.
deleted-user·
Tell her that rice cereal contains inorganic arsenic making it a carcinogenic to baby. Just 2 servings per day doubles their risk of cancer.
http://www.babycenter.com/404_is-it-safe-to-feed-my-baby-rice-cereal_10384011.bc
Whatheshell ·
@Mucky I didn't even know that it had arcenic in it! That's scary!
deleted-user·
Yes I don't think enough has been done to make the general public aware of this research. Only recently did the AAP update their website with guidance for medical professionals, yet I still see women on here saying their doctors have recommended rice cereal.
deleted-user·
I think in this case I would say something like 'I know you're concerned mom but I am concerned about my child as well and will be following the doctors advice. Some things are just not the same as 25 years ago'.
deleted-user·
Mucky, according to multiple people in my birth group they all say that cereal has been recommended as an addition to baby's bottle. I was in shock. Either medical professionals are really behind on current recommendations or women just lie (I think it's some of both).
P.S. I won't name my birth month but I will say that it just ended 3 weeks ago and there are several babies already on cereal. ?
deleted-user·
This is how my fil is. I say no to things and its this same speech each time "he will be fine. I have 3 kids and 3 granddaughters that are all fine. Dont even look things up he'll be ok". 1 daughter has gastroparesis, but I dont bring that up...
Whatheshell ·
Cristi that's not even right ? poor babies!
My fil suggested we give DS water and I explained to him about why that's unnecessary and he said "wow I didn't know that!" Then let it go.