People keep showing up unannounced!!
I had my baby last week and my family keeps showing up uninvited. My mom showed up at the hospital with my horrible shat-brain of a step father the next day after I kept texting her that we were tired and hadn't slept and couldn't figure out breastfeeding. Then my grandpa showed up with his wife. They didn't stay long, but we didn't know they were coming. I wanted him to see his great-grandson, but we'd just finished having brunch with my SIL & her boyfriend at our place. Now my dad & step mom are currently here, and their visit was planned, but my uncle, grandpa, and step-gma showed up. My dad was like "Let's order food!" Wut?! I can't host an impromptu dinner party 6 days after having given birth.
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While I was having a mini meltdown in the bathroom my husband asked them all to go out to dinner and then come back later, just my dad & step mom. I also get the feeling the women knew what was up. We had a nice visit later, the four of us plus baby. I would have liked to hang out more with them, but five guests on no sleep and aching breasts was too much for me.
My in laws did this constantly when ds was first born. I wanted them to see their grandchildren but I also wanted some privacy. Mil asked me EVERYDAY if she could feed him, like How? You wanna hold my boob or something? Got to the point where I hid upstairs and called dh up 10 million times until they got the hint. Lol don't know what I'll do when this baby is born
With my first I removed the batteries from my doorbell. So if you didn't preplan your trip with me you didn't come over.
With second, we had moved houses and kept the dront gate shut. If unexpected visitors called and said they were out the front I would tell them we were not home
A few days after I had my son my grandmother whom I don't speak with anymore or even see on a regular basis showed up. It was fine, awkward though. But the next day she came back again unannounced and I was in bed sleeping with the baby after being awake all night and my front door was unlocked and she just walked in yelling HELLO...like thanks for just walking into my house and waking me up. ?
They should completely understand if you and baby go lay down for a nap or even the night. They're just showing their love and showing up that way means they must feel very close to you. Tell them you love them and thank you but you need to rest. Good luck! Just remember they lo!ve you
I hadn't even left the delivery room and had about 10 people waiting for me in my room lol, and about 7-8 of those had came to see my baby when he was still doing the one hour skin to skin with me. Thankfully I had a great labor and felt good, I didn't mind the company, but now that I'm looking back, it was a lot ?
With my first this is how things were. Everyone showed up at the hospital not even 2 hours after I had her and once I was home everyone would go over without giving a notice. Worst part we lived with my in laws so every time she would cry they would busted in the room without knocking! Talk about annoying! I'm having my baby on Monday and we already made it clear to everyone that we don't want visitors at the hospital until we tell them it's ok for them to show up and once we are home they have to give us a call to make sure we're okay with it since we got our own house now.
If people come over this time without calling first I'm not opening the door for them. Mean I know but if I'm resting and my kids and husband are to I'm not about to get up and wake them up for people.
I can't even imagine showing up at a new moms house without being invited. That's so incredibly rude.
Just because you're not welcome at first doesn't mean that your support isn't acknowledged.