I wish I had people that would check on me like that ? since I had kids no one talks to me anymore and whenever I'm depressed or try to tell SO (currently not together partially due to this reason) he just gets POed and tells me to stop by bullsh!t and grow up...like thanks dude...only thing keeping me here are my babies. I've been trying to push everything to the back of my mind and not think about any of it but it's hard. On top of this my mom attempted to kill herself Sunday night. No idea why. She's still inches hospital and doesn't have her phone and no one has updated me other than she's being evaluated and don't know how long she'll be there. Sorry I kinda stole the post it's just it really hit me and ivr been dealing with this really terribly the last few days

Glad I could help @gab

I used to be suicidal but my friends saved my life multiple times simply by sending a text and saying "hey are you okay? Do you need anything?" I wouldn't be alive without those people, my children wouldn't exist. Thank God for good friends ?

@luna thanks. I will definitely ask how can I help instead of what's wrong. I feel like they wouldn't like it if I asked what's wrong.

@Luna nailed it. I'm in tears. I've been dealing with depression for awhile now and no one understands. That just nailed it. A little bit of hope has just been restored in my heart.

Personally I wouldn't want someone to ask me what's wrong, the whole issue with depression is that usually, there isn't anything wrong at all. Everything in my life is fine, but yet I still feel like everything is falling apart. Asking me what's wrong is frustrating because I don't have an answer for that, and it makes me feel like my feelings aren't valid unless I have a reason. Everyone is different though, you know this person much better. I would personally like it if people asked "what can I do to help you?" Or "can I come over to hang out?" Sometimes, all you need is to know that someone cares, that someone gives a s*** about you and you're not alone in the world

Thanks so much for all this advice. I will definitely be there for them and help them through it. I wasn't sure if when someone feels that way they want to talk about it or not. But I will definitely show them that I'm there for them.

Csoli it right. Go over there.

@csoli YES ??????

My best friend has done this for me and it is the best thing ever

If you're close enough, tell them you're coming over. Be with them. Hold their hand. Let them know you're there for them, even if they have nothing to say, having someone BE there helps.

I would ask "how long have you been feeling this way" "why do you feel this way" "have you thought about seeing a doctor"

Ask them what's wrong. A lot to f times talking about the issue can help with the depression.

I'd ask them what was wrong and why they are feeling that way. Then I would try to give them advice to help

Maybe ask if there's anything you can do to help.