Sister in law miscarried but I’m pregnant...
My brothers wife is one of my best friends. We are very close and this time we got pregnant one week apart. Her first and mine 5th. They’ve been ttc for long time.
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@zaka.. i think this is the most thoughtful post i have ever come across! your sil is very lucky to get you as her god sister/ friend. My advice would be to give your brother and his wife to grieve on their loss, then you can meet your sil and give her your heart felt hug, Also for now you can let your brother know that you are with them and here for at their hour of need
Considering how close y'all are she will need your love and compassion.
Me and my best friend found out we were both pregnant about a week apart and our due dates were a week apart we were both so thrilled since we were so close. We just knew our babies would be best friends.
I had already had a miscarriage about 4 months before this so I was very excited to be pregnant again. Unfortunately I miscarried again in the first trimester. My friend had no clue what to say and that was understandable but she continued to love on me and check in on me daily and that meant more to me than anything. Later on when I was able to talk about it she told me how guilty she felt and how sad she was. But I would never wish this upon someone else nor would I hold my miscarriage against her. Babies are a blessing from God and God was telling me it wasn't our time yet. Did it suck that I wasn't pregnant, yes, for sure but the joy I had for her was overwhelming.
She may need time to grieve but she will need you in that time as well.
I miscarried a third time 2 months later but I am happy to say that I am now pregnant at 36 weeks and my best friends baby is 6 months old so they won't be very far apart in age.
Because you were someone already close to her I'm sure she will be ok with you reaching out.
Just let them know you're still around if either of them need you. Extend your love to her & let her know that when she is ready she can talk to you. & then just be patient. It may take her some time to come back from her loss & be able to talk to you regarding your pregnancy. From your post I can tell you're a considerate person & you don't want to upset her in any way. Just let her know you're still there for support.
I had pregnant friends during my loss. Idk if I'm superhuman or something but I recovered fairly quickly & able to talk to them & go to baby showers etc. but idk your SIL if she is that way or not. It was comforting to know they were just THERE when I needed them. That may be what she needs from you at this time. I'm so sorry this is happening :(
Unfortunately i lost my baby too and we are going through this together...