I think if you're going to go through with this, then you should look into getting the custody papers. You never really know if he's going to fight you on taking your daughter with you until it happens. Best to be prepared.

I agree that you should really consider getting the custody papers before you go. It sounds like you were surprised that he didn't pay rent so you might be surprised what he would/wouldn't do for his daughter.

Sorry your going through this. Goodluck with the move!

Doesn't matter if you think it's best. Follow your moms advice and get the temporary custody in order so he can't say you just took her. Have you tried contacting him? Perhaps he has the money and just hasn't paid it yet. It's only the 3rd. Not saying you should stay but if he has the money then you don't need to rush off leaving your belongings and you can take some time to plan the move back to your parents house.

Your mom is right. Get custody papers. I'm not sure what that entails in Canada but worse case scenario is what you have to be thinking about right not. In the United States both parents have rights until you guys go to court and establish proper custody.

He won't try to stop us from going or anything. There's not a risk of having it seem as kidnapping. I won't have time to have anything done with the courts. If there becomes a need for custody arrangements then we will do it when that time comes.

If you don't get custody papers it can be seen as kidnapping. Don't be foolish. Cover your butt. If he wanted what is best for your daughter he would have paid the rent!!!

I agree, I'd sell my stuff then. The extra money would help too.

Yup do a big yard sale of wtbr you plan to leave behind. That way you have some cash when you leave.

@fluffy. Yes but now she's unable to and won't be able to come get me because of childcare. She's got 3 kids. The oldest turned 4 yesterday and the other 2 are 2 years old and 6 months old. Its not the easiest drive to make and she won't be able to make it with her 3 kids.

Ooooook, I understand. That's a ruff situation! I'm not sure what a gdl is... but do you have anyone that could maybe help you move your stuff? Maybe your husband, or someone, has a truck or something??

I'm glad you are taking control of your life and moving.

He won't be moving with me. Just me and my daughter. We have separated and were paying equal bills but that's clearly not working so I'm leaving and making sure my daughter and I have a stable life since he clearly can't be held accountable for anything. My mother was here this morning when I got the notice. She's a lot more harsh than I am. She told me to go get custody papers and have them ready on the coffee table along with my bus schedule when he gets home. I don't see the need for custody papers because if its what's best for our daughter he will let us go.

This might be a blessing in disguise. Good luck!!

I agree with planet, have a big yard sale!

I agree with unknown u-haul is they way to go by the time you buy greyhound tickets it'll pay for a u-haul!

I am not off of my gdl yet. You must be off of your gdl to rent one. I've looked into it. My parents are going to the states for the rest of their vacation but won't be able to come back through here and drive back with a uhaul. Greyhound is our only affordable option.

And how long have you been together??

Is your husband moving with you?

Our notice gives us 5 days to pay rent or dispute it. If we don't have it paid in that time frame we have 10 days from the day the notice was given to move out.

If we figured this out I'm sure it would be okay. I just can't rely on him. I have no idea why he didn't pay his portion of it and I'm not sure I want to stick around and have this continue to happen. I want to be able to wake up every morning not wondering if I'll have a place to live tomorrow.

I agree with PP about the open house idea.

You need a special license to drive a uhaul truck? We don't need that in the US. And also, I'm not sure how it works in Canada but if you are late on rent here usually the landlord serves you a "5-day pay or quit" notice. Basically from the time the 5 day notice is served you have 5 days to pay the rent, otherwise the eviction proceedings begin.

So I'm not understanding your notice? You have 5 days to pay rent and 10 days to move out? So even if you paid the rent within the 5 days you still have to leave in 10 days? What happens if you don't pay the rent in the 5 days?

Man that's awful. ?

I think if they won't be able to afford rent next month, eviction is inevitable. Her parents paying would be a waste of their money. Hope everything works out for you!

A u haul is way more expensive for a 9 hour trip and I don't have a proper license to use one. It's going to be me and my daughter. No-one else. My parents don't have a lot of money as it is so them doing this for me is a lot already.

I agree with Unknown. I feel like there are other options.