I send JG's advice. A new vibrator is a great pick me up!

I agree, bad idea. I suggest working on yourself emotionally and physically if you're feeling down. Sign up for a gym with a kiddie watch so you can start feeling better about yourself. Hold off on dating or maybe just do some online flirting/ conversations.

No no no. Go get your hair and nails done , maybe buy a new outfit and strut what yo baby gave ya , but it's too soon to be dating.

It's only been a week and you are vulnerable. It will not make you feel better. Bad idea.

Can you go out of town to visit old friends for a fun weekend? Or have an old girlfriend come spend the weekend with you and do something fun?

If you want casual sex, get a hotel room and find a sitter for your baby.

If you want a pick me up, get a dozen doughnuts and a manicure. (Maybe even a new vibrator)

I agree. It's way too soon to be going on a date or having a man over to your home. The gentleman that you are talking about you said you haven't seen in a few years. Alot can happen in a few years. He may be a lot different than he was. Who knows what he's into now.

Do you have family you can hang out with at all? Anyone you can reach out to that can come visit? It sounds like you are a bit isolated. I know the feeling & it sucks, but I really don't think dating this soon is the answer. You know in your heart it's a bad idea. Sorry.

Personally I wouldn't. I think doing something else with your time instead would be better.

Honestly i have never been one to object to rebound s*x, I have had my fair share of those. But even I think this is a little too soon. Your obviously still struggling with the past & you need to work through helping yourself first. Like others have said join a club of some sort, you will make new friends and honestly you might meet the man your meant to be with forever! I'm sending you lots of positive thoughts!

I don't think a rebound guy is a good idea, and it's no way fair to him. Maybe find a hobby of some sort? It's way too soon to be dating. It's been a week

Nope. Way too soon. I second the time with girlfriends. Maybe understand why u want a guy to lift u up and make u feel better?

Why not join a yoga or spin class? Go buy some cute gym clothes, get your hair done, buy some new makeup, get new shoes, etc.

If you join some sort of class, you can meet friends and help get back in shape since you mentioned that in your post. Some gyms and places like that even have little daycare areas that are free with the purchase of classes. It'll keep you active and socially included with people and it's safer than going out with some random guy that might be looking for more than just a casual hangout. People are facking crazy these days.

Ok let me spell this out to you, exactly how a man will hear it- "Hey! I know we haven't seen each other in a few years. My husband and I split about a week ago. I'm pretty lonely and need a pick me up. Nothing serious. Just some drinks at my place". Him- IM GETTIN LAID, WITH NO STRINGS ATTACHED! WOOHOO!!!!

What about a night out with some girl friends? I feel like what you're wanting to do is a very bad idea. What about a make over or something?

I think the most telling sentence in this whole thing is 'I don't even want to face the reality of what happened with my husband'. I think you need to deal with that first, face your new reality before trying to find solace in another man. I can understand where you might think finding a man to make you feel what your husband hasn't been making you feel, beautiful, wanted a woman, might work in the short term. But you need some time to work on you, to see how your new life as it's going to be.

I'm sure this is a difficult time, but please think of how long term this might be detrimental to your healing process. A short term thing might just make you feel even worse if it's not you that breaks it off.

Sending you lots of strength OP

Maybe dating is not the right word for what i want. I basically just want a casual outing with someone to cheer me up and get my mind off things. I would NEVER have someone I never met over to my house with my daughter In it. I know someone fairly well that lives maybe about 40 minutes out of town that I've known since elementary school. I haven't seen him in a couple years and I was thinking maybe having him over for drinks or something. Casually. Everything I said kind of sounded okay until I typed it out and posted. I should have clarified. I just don't intend on him meeting my daughter and I don't plan for it to turn into anything. Just a casual thing to cheer me up. A girls night out isn't really doable as I know literally nobody here except for maybe 2 people that my husband is friends with.

Yeah I think your moving WAAAAY to fast.. Try a girls night out. Honestly if it just happened I think you need to give it time and focus on your and your daughter.

Take it slow do not have people you don't know over to your home that's asking for trouble.

It also gives the impression that you're interested in something more than just a date

Back that little red wagon up.....about 76 miles, honey. No. No. No. No. Noooooooo. To EVERYTHING you just said. If you need a pick me up, cut your hair. Buy some lipstick or new heels. But do not get involved with any man ??

Maybe try a girls night out? Or just an outing to yourself? Dating so soon after does not seem like a great idea.

Slow your role.

Your daughters safety is of the upmost importance. You can't just have some stranger come over to your house. That's dangerous.

I think it's a very, very bad idea.