Sleep associations.. I've created some bad sleep associations like nursing him until he's fallen asleep or rocking him…

I have lots of bad sleep associations with my little guy too, rocking, nursing, sleeping with me. I've started to put him in crib sleepy but awake, i stay in the room with him, he will whine a bit and if it turns into full on crying i go over and soothe him by rubbing his tummy and shushing, lets him know i'm there without picking him up. When he's calm i go back to just sitting in the room and i repeat this until hes asleep. Takes about 40 mins, hoping it'll get shorter the more we do it.

I was never a fan of cio but it was getting bad with mine, I'd get him completely asleep lay him down abs he'd instantly wake up! I tried everything the five S's, Rockinham toes eyes are really heavy where was about to fall sleep then lay him down, holding him for the full 20 minutes until he was in his deep sleep nothing made any difference. Finally I decided to try the CIO. I only leave them in there for a couple minutes crying, 5max. First night it took 50 minutes last night it took 20 minutes. We'll see how tonight goes. It's not easy to listen to him cry I'll tell you that. I set out side his door crying right with Him until the five minutes was up and run in there and soothe him and do it all again!

My baby is the same way. She will scream until she pukes. She absolutely will not self soothe. For naps I just lay down with her in my bed and sneak away after she's asleep.

I do the same thing with Oak.

Fortunately for me, Oaklee isn't a screamer. She doesn't even cry. So when we put her down, most of the time she's awake and she puts herself to sleep. She coos at her mobile and gets sleepy on her own. Some times she pisses around and screeches for a few minute but we jusy watch her on the monitor and she will just go to sleep.

After her dad's been on shift for 72 hrs she likes to cuddle with him. So he puts her to bed almost asleep and sushes her till she's asleep.

@ mama.to.finn I'm just not sure how to get to that point. When I try to put him down still awake but sleepy he will whimper and then start crying and his cry turns into screaming until he's red in the face and choking. Blahh

Baby needs to go down in his bed sleepy but awake. If he falls asleep in his crib on his own, when he wakes up in the next sleep cycle (every 30-45 mins), he will more than likely just fall back asleep with no issue. It's the equivalent of an adult going to sleep with their pillow and waking up and it's gone. You would start looking for your pillow. Going to sleep on their own is a learned skill and there will probably be some tears, but I believe it is 100% worth it. My son goes to sleep on his own in his crib about 75% of the time with no real crying. He sleeps for his naps for 1-3 hours and sleeps 4-5 hour stretches at night. Before that he was only napping for 10-30 minutes and was up 10x a night. So trust me when I say I've been there :)

I know but now I can put him in there without turning it on and he goes to sleep on his own it was just something I did to get him used to fall asleep without me rocking him

@ Lexi... Doesn't sound like a good permanent solution... LOs eventually outgrow all these devices :(

One thing that helped my LO is vibration. I can put him in his rock n play when he's sleepy and turn on the vibration and he will go to sleep

You have to rock him less each night and put him in the crib still slightly awake and then you hold him less each night. You will get him to the point where you can just set him in there and he will fall asleep. I did this with my girl to wean her off the rocking. I also have to use a specific white noise But she knows that sound means sleep. I'll post a picture in a second of the process

If he's used to your rocking and you have a bad back than maybe try rocking him in a rocking chair. That way you can support your weight on the chair instead of your back ?

Same here i need tips and advice also. I always nursed my twins their last meal and they fell asleep during never thought much of it til now they eat dinner but dont fall asleep

I lay down in bed nursing LO to sleep and transfer. I'd say 50% of the time it works. Or if he wants to be rocked instead of nursing I'll hold him up on my shoulder. Gives my arms and lower back a break.

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