inappropriate SS????
I need to let this out I'm loosing my mind. Ok so my husband is helping his brother in law put tile in his house so I'm home with my two year old and my SS. Im starting to cook dinner and SS walks to the restroom with the tablet we got him for Christmas( I didn't think much of it since I take my phone with me and do my business) well he's in there for a while, and i hear like he's talking to someone. When he gets out tablet in hand and goes to his room, I go check up on him and I find him chatting with a girl. (Mind you he's 11yrs old) I told him to get off his tablet and play with his little brother for a bit. My mind is raising I cant shake the feeling that he was doing something inappropriate and video chatting with a girl. I even went to smell the bathroom to see if it smelled like poop and it doesn't he was in there for a while. Idk how to handle this right now I called my husband to see when he will be back he said about 2 hours. He's 11 I though he would only use it to play games. I didn't even now he could download video chat. Ohh how times have changed and I'm sick to my stomach. He also has a password on it.
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This concerns me my ss is only 9 but already curious about things.
He hasn't really asked about the body or sex or girls yet but if we are talking about something and he says what's that about and we say it is an adult thing he is always like "now you made me curious"
He has his own desktop computer and an iPad so we carefully monitor it.
At this stage he hasn't really got friends let alone gfs. He has ASD and spends most of his time watching YouTube vids of games like mine craft.
Still scared of what there is out there on the internet
My DH said they had a serious talk. They had " The talk" he didn't go into much detail about what they talked. But it sounds like it went good. My DH has his tablet for now and putting some parental control so he can't access anything inappropriate.
My husband is talking to him. Idk what they are talking about. But I'm hoping he's handling it well I definitely don't want him to feel ashamed of being curious. But i feel he shouldn't be video chatting or having that Instagram account.
At his age it is normal to be curious. Kids have a great deal of information at their fingertips so it's important to keep the lines of communication open. Accusations of inappropriate behavior and treating him like his curiosity is wrong will shut down communication and results in horrible information being accepted
My DH came home and I talked to him. So he got the tablet from him and demanded the password. SS didn't wanted to give it to him saying " but why". " why are you being like this". Well he finally gave it to him and he has been video chatting this girl from school. We couldn't find evidence of him being inappropriate with her. But we did find out he has an Instagram and he follows alot of women in bikinis Twerking and what not. His history didn't show anything too alarming. But he is very curious about women body. He did type in the search. " how girls vagina looks". I still feel he was doing something very inappropriate in the bathroom while video chatting with this girl. My husband is still talking to him. And I sense that SS is mad at me. We are definitely going to make rules and also talk to his mom since he takes the tablet to her house.
Not my SS but my friend's son that i help her with sometimes. He is now 13 but since he has an iPod or tablet he has already had to tell his password and if i asked to see his tablet or what ever he was using he had to hand it over. She has a lot of safety's on his stuff so he can't access things he shouldn't.
He also can't download any apps without her password so he has to ask her.
Good luck.
@ehenzon.....I didn't find out until my daughter snitched on him (the girl he sent the pic to told & showed, some others on the bus). He tried denying it, but I was finally able to get it out of him. He doesn't own his own device, so was using my old phone with the wi-fi enabled, so it's not a commen occurrence (& now he's not allowed to use that either). I showed him the article, & pointed out how it's not a smart move....at any pt she can show friends, who might tell a teacher, & that's how the police get involved. That once something is online, it's there for life. He's a pretty easy-going kid, so it was easily handled once I explained the repercussions.
Ill make sure things change whether my DH finds anything inappropriate or not.
I agree with a PP. When his dad gets home, make him unlock the tablet in front of you both. Then change the password to one only you and your husband know. And change the settings so you need to put in a password before you download anything.
11 year olds should NOT have privacy on the Internet. It is a dangerous place.
I would never let my children or my step children have free reign of something like a tablet or computer in my house- sorry.
The tablet should only be used when he is in a common area and you can step in and deal with things like this if needed.
He should also have limits on when he can use said tablet, in my opinion.
I also don't want to say anything, because he will have the opportunity to delete things.
I doubt he will hand it to me.
Yea, unfortunately with the influx of technology, the kids are becoming involved in activities they wouldn't have otherwise. I "caught" my son sending nudes last summer (he's 15), so it's quite possible at 11 he's doing the same, as my SS commonly goes in the bathroom for waaaay to long with his phone. My 13 yr old daughter knows girls at her school who are sexually active & have been since 5th & 6th grade....same with my son.
The best way to deal with it is to let them know it's not appropriate & the possible repercussions from doing so. I let my son read an article about two 14 yr old's who were charged with distributing child pornography for sending nudes to each other.....extreme case, but it brought him back to reality.
It's normal for him to wonder about vaginas and like women in bikinis. Technology is such a scary thing.