need help please I'm more of a lurker in this group but I need honest opinions here please.

I'd keep my mouth shout and wear ear plugs or listen to music with some noise cancelling earphones.

I used to take DD outside when she'd cry and I'd be less than pleased if someone tried to tell me to go somewhere else because my baby was crying.

I think the ear plugs is a great idea. You will see once your baby is here it's not that easy. 5 months is still so young that it can be many things. If they our trying to sooth the baby then there's not much they can do. Also if it only happena during the day it's not their fault that when you sleep. They probably don't even know that your trying to sleep. I would keep my mouth shut. Or one day come out and ask if everything is okay.

Yeh I wouldn't say anything.

We do what we need to do to soothe our babies, if someone came out of their apartment to tell me to go back inside with my crying baby I would absolutely tear them a new a****** .

They aren't meaning any harm, they wouldn't know you work odd shifts. Just get some ear plugs for the time being.

Soon it will be your bubba keeping them up haha.

I didn't even think of ear plugs. That is a good idea. Your right I don't understand how hard it's going to be yet. This is our first baby and I'm sure no matter how prepared we think we are were not. I'm really hoping this will pass. Then again it won't matter soon, I'll have my own baby to tend to. Thank you for the suggestions.

I would say something. I somewhat understand pp but at the same time, youre paying rent just as they are and just like any noisy neighbor regardless of the noise i would be upset. But that's a big reason we don't live in apartments anymore, only houses. Rent is about the same here if not cheaper and you dont have anyone above, below, right up next to you to add unwelcome noise to your space. You could just try to bring it up politely that you work night shifts and you've been having a difficult time sleeping since you're far along in pregnancy. I mean, they should understand.

Now in public, don't come at me and tell me to shut my kid up.. ill tell her to yell louder because I keep her noise under control!

@duckie public is a whole different story lol no body should be saying that in public. We're only in this apartment one more year then hopefully we'll be able to afford a house. Trust me apartment living isn't something we wanted.

But most likely I'll probably try the ear plugs the others suggested rather than start any issues. Like I said I've never had issues with them before and I don't really want any now.

I don't think it's fair to compare a crying baby to the noisy neighbor. If it were like a six year old yelling and being crazy at all hours, then sure, that child would fall under the noisy neighbor category, but a five month old baby, not the same.

I was absolutely going to suggest ear plugs. I lived in a very nice three story townhouse in law school and took the bedroom on the first floor. The kitchen, with hardwood floors, was directly above me. It was hell trying to take naps during the day to recover from long nights studying. Ear plugs saved my sanity. Make sure you smash them super small and roll them to make a skinny tube before you slide them into your ears. They will grow to fit your ear canal perfectly and you won't hear a thing.

I think I might be misunderstanding. Is your neighbor taking her 5 month old, loudly crying baby from inside the privacy of her own unit, to stand in a public hallway, for sometimes extended periods of time? If I'm understanding that correctly is there a reason she's doing so? Is she like, painting said hallway or does she need to be in that hallway for some other reason (though I can't seem to think of another one)?

I just can't wrap my head around why somebody would do that. Seems inconsiderate of the other tenants in the apartment building as I assume it's harder to hear the crying baby from inside her own apartment vs in that public hallway.....

Now, I probably wouldn't say anything because in reality I'm nice af ? but I totes get why you'd be irritated. That's pretty rude IMO (again if I'm understanding this correctly).

@Becky yes your understanding correctly. Though it's outside technically. It's not an enclosed building. I thought maybe they hoped the fresh air will help his crying. I personally don't want to complain because I too am about to have a baby and there might be times her crying might be bothersome to others I just didn't know how to get any sleep.

I'd say the earplugs is a good idea. I live in a house, but the slightest noise would wake me when I was pregnant. (Even cars passing by in the streets). I actually had quite a few pairs. Lol.

Good luck sweetie.? And Congratulations by the way.?

I'd try to get to know them. Maybe offer a little help when baby is outside crying. I mean, you're gonna be up anyways, right? You will get some insight to their story and the sure they'd appreciate the offer, even if they don't take you up on it. They will also get to know your story, and might realize they are actually keeping you awake. It might work out for everyone involved if you befriend them a bit

We had a nurse mention to us once that sometimes when baby is fussing and you've tended to all of their needs, they may just be bored and need a change of scenery. She suggested taking him outside for a bit to change things up for him, so maybe that's what they're doing? That's literally the only reason I can think of as to why she'd be standing outside like that