to test or not to test...

so i wanted to wait to test with dh if/when af is late. i remember how special it was the first time i saw those two lines, and i wanted to share that with him. af is due monday or tues. i've been feeling exactly like i did after bfp with ds. crampy, bloated, twinges, heavy... i've also had spotting (brown only sometimes when i wipe) for a couple days. and supposedly you often feel it early with #2. i think he'll think i'm crazy to test before. i keep going in circles. test without him, then tell him if yes. test without him, pretend i didn't then tell him, and retest. tell him and test on sunday monday, or lie that i am a day late and test sunday monday?? help me choose, i'm drving myself bananas!!