How to be selfish? I work so hard taking care of my family and everything that consists of keeping our house a home etc.…

I'm feeling the same. I try to "look cute" sometimes but I still don't feel right. That feeling blows!

I've been a stay at home mom for 6 years and I still can't figure out a way to find me time. I do feel that over worked feeling it's hard to mange everything around the house, kids and a hubby. It's sad I was thinking just this weekend, when was the last time I did something of or myself without kids and it was in January. Very very very sad. I don't even know how to fix myself up anymore if it's not yoga pants shorts and a big t shirt I'm lost on how to dress myself. I feel so ugly all the time

I need more hope ?

I think a lifestyle change would help me.

Girl I have been a mom 14 1/2 yrs. Idk what being selfish is like. I wish I did. Everything I do is for the kids or the house. My husband has work and gets to play volleyball once a week and go do stuff whenever. Everywhere I go I bring the kids. Noting I do is just for me

I could've written this myself! I put everyone else and their needs first! Not even Just my husband my parents and siblings and then I get down and upset because I don't feel like I'm me anymore

I just moved to a totally different place. I have 1 friend but she's basically in the same boat except she has more kids and her husband is away for work for a while.

My problem is if I go out my husband will usually hold it against me later on or complain how he doesn't get time to go out. As if I'm stopping him ?

But he gets to be at work all day with 1.5 hr lunch, chat with co workers while I'm a sahm. I'm not complaining, but they're totally different jobs. I use to think he understood but I think he was just letting everything build up and once in a while he would blow up on me.

But I agree with you, I need to make a new schedule for myself to do something a few times a week. I'm thinking gym/classes, finishing online school, finding a church, and a mani/pedi 2x a month.

That's not selfish u deserve time for ur self u can't take care of any one if u keep neglecting ur self!!!

Just start with a mini pedi if u into that. On like a Tuesday ask a few friend to go for lunch on a Thursday start going to the gym on any day join a class it's a lot u could do. Tell ur husband u would like at least 2 hours or something a few times a week!!! U have to find some me time!!! Good luck.

Btw I went through the same thing n I just told him it wasn't fair I need more help!! N that's what I got.

Good luck Hun

I then cried because he Messed up all my hard work! broke nap schedules tv time etc. he let the kids do what they wanted!!

I'm in the exact same boat