How to be selfish?
I work so hard taking care of my family and everything that consists of keeping our house a home etc. I end up feeling jealous of my husband because I feel like I do so much more work than he does, like, he doesn't have as much responsibilities at home. Our relationship is having problems but I'd really like to focus on myself because I feel worn down and like I'm not Nicole anymore, I'm just Mom and Wife. It's all fun and games until I realized I'm insecure, overweight, can't seem to focus on school work so I can go back to work and feel that good independence again. I want to learn how to be selfish and take time for myself. Does this sound impossible with a 1 year old? Lol I feel like I'm just dreaming.
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I've been a stay at home mom for 6 years and I still can't figure out a way to find me time. I do feel that over worked feeling it's hard to mange everything around the house, kids and a hubby. It's sad I was thinking just this weekend, when was the last time I did something of or myself without kids and it was in January. Very very very sad. I don't even know how to fix myself up anymore if it's not yoga pants shorts and a big t shirt I'm lost on how to dress myself. I feel so ugly all the time
I need more hope ?
I think a lifestyle change would help me.
I just moved to a totally different place. I have 1 friend but she's basically in the same boat except she has more kids and her husband is away for work for a while.
My problem is if I go out my husband will usually hold it against me later on or complain how he doesn't get time to go out. As if I'm stopping him ?
But he gets to be at work all day with 1.5 hr lunch, chat with co workers while I'm a sahm. I'm not complaining, but they're totally different jobs. I use to think he understood but I think he was just letting everything build up and once in a while he would blow up on me.
But I agree with you, I need to make a new schedule for myself to do something a few times a week. I'm thinking gym/classes, finishing online school, finding a church, and a mani/pedi 2x a month.
That's not selfish u deserve time for ur self u can't take care of any one if u keep neglecting ur self!!!
Just start with a mini pedi if u into that. On like a Tuesday ask a few friend to go for lunch on a Thursday start going to the gym on any day join a class it's a lot u could do. Tell ur husband u would like at least 2 hours or something a few times a week!!! U have to find some me time!!! Good luck.
Btw I went through the same thing n I just told him it wasn't fair I need more help!! N that's what I got.
Good luck Hun
I then cried because he Messed up all my hard work! broke nap schedules tv time etc. he let the kids do what they wanted!!
I'm feeling the same. I try to "look cute" sometimes but I still don't feel right. That feeling blows!